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Depends on what she does during GNOs, and how often is she going?
When I meet up with my girlfriends and know there will be drinking / clubbing / bar-hopping involved, I'll do my best to get my boyfriend to come, and most of the time, he does and we all have a good time. I did go out with a friend one night, stayed out until past midnight, got drunk...and I felt kind of guilty when I came home to my boyfriend, for going out drinking without him.
If your wife is going out with her girlfriends a couple times a year, especially if you guys have no kids, it's no big deal, but if it's more than once a month or you have young children...well, that's a different story.
The only GNO's I've done in the past 5 years (including when I was single) has been the movies with one of my best female friends. We're actually due to go out for our once a year movie pretty soon.
To clarify my wife usually goes with friends to the movies, shopping or to get pedicures or something. Maybe once every 4-5 months she goes to the bar for a couple of margaritas with friends. We have 3 young kids and she mainly is home with them so that's one reason she likes to dress up she says so she can feel like a "woman" and not just a mom in sweatpants and a tshirt with her hair pulled up. Posted via Mobile Device
basically dress up for each other and not to impress guys at the bar.
What I mean is if the wife is out and fllirts a little with a cute bartender or their group accepts a free drink or 2 from a group of guys who know they are married. Should that be ok if she comes home tipsy and a bit horny?
but her being hit on and possibly flirting back bothers me some. Especially if she is drinking bc I know she gets more expressive and definately hornier when she drinks. Help! Posted via Mobile Device
That's funny, a very large percentage of your rather small post involved drinking, bars, s.l.u.t.t.y outfits and getting hit on by men. Sorry I sent everyone off on a tangent. Didn't know your issue revolved around movies and mani/pedi's. Please accept my apologies.
I am guessing the experiences of the betrayed spouses on this board were a little hard for the OP to hear.
Many of us know how something so seemingly "innocent" can go terribly awry. Many of know the lies that betrayers tell. Many of us know how being the one sitting at home oblivious feels.
I only get drunk with Hubs (like this last weekend).
I'll have a glass of wine or two with friends...but at my home so I can just wobble to bed
GNO is so overrated, imo. Expensive and loud and lame. I'd rather sit at my home or a friend's home and talk and connect. That's how I am with my friend's anyway.
To clarify my wife usually goes with friends to the movies, shopping or to get pedicures or something. Maybe once every 4-5 months she goes to the bar for a couple of margaritas with friends. We have 3 young kids and she mainly is home with them so that's one reason she likes to dress up she says so she can feel like a "woman" and not just a mom in sweatpants and a tshirt with her hair pulled up. Posted via Mobile Device
Ohh, well, in that case, it doesn't sound like you have much to worry about. I thought that she was going out bar-hopping or clubbing often, and that's why you were worried (I'd be, if my boyfriend was consistently doing those things without me!)
If she is not acting any differently toward you, and is still a good wife and mother, and has not given you any reason to worry, then I'd just let her go and have a good time =)
I only get drunk with Hubs (like this last weekend).
I'll have a glass of wine or two with friends...but at my home so I can just wobble to bed
GNO is so overrated, imo. Expensive and loud and lame. I'd rather sit at my home or a friend's home and talk and connect. That's how I am with my friend's anyway.
Are you being facetious? What's wrong with me only getting drunk with Hubs? If you don't like my posts, don't read them.
I just think GNO are overrated. OP doesn't seem to have a wife with GNO issues if she's just going for mani/pedi....etc. Not the very Friday night bar/club hopping with the girls.
I don't mind a little flirtation, whether it's him or me doing it. I wouldn't feel the same if either of us had a tendency of not controlling the amount of drinking we do, or if we had problems in the relationship I thought were ripe for inviting affairs.
To clarify my wife usually goes with friends to the movies, shopping or to get pedicures or something. Maybe once every 4-5 months she goes to the bar for a couple of margaritas with friends. We have 3 young kids and she mainly is home with them so that's one reason she likes to dress up she says so she can feel like a "woman" and not just a mom in sweatpants and a tshirt with her hair pulled up. Posted via Mobile Device
that sounds 100% normal to me. whats with everyone bashing on GNO? unless everyone is thinking 20-something sorority girls wearing f-me boots and tube tops? when i think of GNO, i think of going out with a couple of close girlfriends (women who don't have girlfriends... that's another issue), getting a nice dinner or sharing appetizers, having a few brews, people watching and gabbing about stuff.
and whoever said average looking women can get hit on at any time - maybe if you're not over 28!
I think that is odd and she is dressing up for attention and to flirt (just my opinion)
my wife when she has gone out with friends they do not go to bar's or clubs and most of the time my wife wants to bring me along if its anything other than them shopping or lunch. My wife has year's back when we first got married gone out with her friends for girls night out but she always came home that same night and she never dressed "sexy" and would not drink.
Id find it odd if my wife dressed up sexy and went out to exclusively clubs and bars' with her single friends who all dress the same "sexy" and they go out and drink.
Bar's and clubs are places men go to meet girls to have sex with well at least clubs are. Some bar's are nothing but men with dates but clubs always have single girls or loose girls.
I only get drunk with Hubs (like this last weekend).
I'll have a glass of wine or two with friends...but at my home so I can just wobble to bed
GNO is so overrated, imo. Expensive and loud and lame. I'd rather sit at my home or a friend's home and talk and connect. That's how I am with my friend's anyway.
I think there are two types of women
Those who are wild and like to get crazy
Those who are not wild
sorry if i am stereotyping i just find it odd if a wife would want to dress up all sexy and go to places that are designed for hooking up and doing everything else bad. I mean most of us know how club and bar life is and the people it attracts and why they go there to get drunk and hook up.
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