General Relationship DiscussionAlthough anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.
Yes. Anyone who tells me GNO's can never be toxic to a marriage needs to hear it.
I agree with you, they can be. In fact, I've seen somewhere on TAM, a poster advising another that if the WW wanted an R, she would have the drop the GNOs. I agree. She might be going to a GNO, or she might be meeting her lover. You just never know.
What are you talking about? I have never had a DRUNKEN MISTAKE. MEANING===I have always known what I was doing. Being drunk is a STUPID EXCUSE used to place blame. "Oh, I was drunk." No...I never had DRUNKEN MISTAKES. I own my choices.
So, your wife CHOSE to cheat on you, drunk or not. She didn't fall on a penis while drunk.
When I go out with my friends (the couple times a year), we go out, act silly, and we're home before midnight.
So...sorry you're so upset and triggered by my post, but not all women are like your wife. I don't go out looking for trouble. I used to though...before marriage. Again, never made the mistake of sex when drunk. I chose it...or I didn't.
OP, regarding your wife telling you she dresses up for the girls THAT IS A TOTAL LIE!
Women never dress up for their girl-friends. It doesn't make sense .
__________________ Shaggy: Men of integrity don't have affairs. They don't have affairs not because there aren't other wonderful women out there besides their wives, they don't have affairs because as men of integrity they choose not to.
__________________ Shaggy: Men of integrity don't have affairs. They don't have affairs not because there aren't other wonderful women out there besides their wives, they don't have affairs because as men of integrity they choose not to.
I like to look nice. Not slvtty, not trashy, but nice. I do that for me. Not men. Not all women who dress up are doing it for the men. Some are, some aren't.
No crap they all want to bang me, I'm young and hot. All of the men in the library, at church, and at the grocery store also all want to bang me.
My husband is also hot, and all the ladies wanna do him. It's part of us being sexy, we can't help it.
And yes, my husband knows I usually drink for free. We're broke so he doesn't care too much. He knows he's always invited to come with if he wants to, he just doesn't really like the dive bars I like.
Men generally back off when I tell them I'm married. If they don't, well, that's why I keep my ***** hand strong fools! I've punched guys in the face at bars before. The result is usually the bouncer coming over to drag the dude I punched in the face out of the bar.
Wow, you remind me why I think my husband is so awesome.
You didn't get my point. I didn't say women dress like granny. I said the reason why they dress up is NOT for other women. It's simply for the men.
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Originally Posted by that_girl
Not true, again.
I like to look nice. Not slvtty, not trashy, but nice. I do that for me. Not men. Not all women who dress up are doing it for the men. Some are, some aren't.
I think the larger question is: If our OP is not comfortable with the way is wife is dressing when she goes out GNO, especially considering he's not going to be there, should the OP's wife take that into consideration and "tone it down"? Should he say something?
I think the larger question is: If our OP is not comfortable with the way is wife is dressing when she goes out GNO, especially considering he's not going to be there, should the OP's wife take that into consideration and "tone it down"? Should he say something?
My answer is yes to both, but what do i know.
Oh yea, if my husband said something about what I was wearing, then I'd listen. But I'm not a slvt and don't like looking like one either....he knows this.
What do you do now? I dunno....take her shopping for some hot clothes you approve of for GNO? There's hot and there's slvtty. However, if your wife is going to cheat, she'll do it in sweats. Doesn't matter.
I agree with That Girl! I really do dress up hot for my girlfriends and for myself. I dress up no matter where I'm going-I love fashion and it's just part of who I am.
However I really dress to thrill when I go out on a date with my husband. He loves it when I wear hooker boots and fishnets for him, and I think he likes showing me off. He even requests certain outfits when we go to his hometown so he can show all the dbags from high school how hot his wife is.
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Re: questions about "girls night out" 
Re: questions about "girls night out" 
I wouldn't want to bang your husband, but your reply--serious or not---was awesome.
