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Old 05-07-2012, 02:04 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Looking for some perspective here. When my wife goes out with her other married female friends for dinner and/or drinks she usually gets dresses up and looks pretty damn hot. She says its only for her friends and that women are different like that and basically dress up for each other and not to impress guys at the bar. Is this normally true ladies? I gotta believe part of it is wanting to get hit on by guys but she denies it.

My 2nd question is what are other married peoples opinion on flirting. What I mean is if the wife is out and fllirts a little with a cute bartender or their group accepts a free drink or 2 from a group of guys who know they are married. Should that be ok if she comes home tipsy and a bit horny? Part of me wants to just stop overthinking it and just enjoy the hot sex that follows but the jealous guy in me always wants to know every detail. I am confident she has never cheated on me and never would but her being hit on and possibly flirting back bothers me some. Especially if she is drinking bc I know she gets more expressive and definately hornier when she drinks. Help!
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Looking for some perspective here. When my wife goes out with her other married female friends for dinner and/or drinks she usually gets dresses up and looks pretty damn hot.
If my husband got upset because when I went out I looked HOT I'd

Mom jeans, nikes and a sweatshirt isn't even allowed at some places.

Stop overthinking it and enjoy the spoils when she gets home. Some people have wives who do this and don't come home at all.
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Old 05-07-2012, 02:13 PM   #3 (permalink)
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This is why I have never went out to a bar, ladies night or not. I know i get more expressive, loose, ect when drinking so I do so at home with hubby and NOT with anyone else. As far as ladies night out.. when I've ever done something like that it was with a group of females going to one of their apartments and watching pride and prejudice. None of us got dressed up.. in fact it was kind of a sleep over type thing. Of course every woman is different so maybe someone else can help with that....
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Old 05-07-2012, 02:14 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Your problem is you ask your wife why she gets dressed up.
Of course women get dressed up to attract males. This is biology. Does that mean she wants to cheat? Not at all.

GNO's, flirting, etc... The mistake you will make is debating it with her. In many marriages, this could be just a bit of fun for the wife, and similar to reading a book. But in others it could be the slippery slope to cheating... But you have to decide what YOUR policy is and then own it. For example, if you like the way she comes home you own it that you are allowing this to happen and have done your own risk / reward analysis that green lights it.... If you don't wan't her to do it you have the undebatble policy that is must stop.
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I work from home all week with kids so when I get a ladies night out you can bet im going to try my best to look as hot as I can.I do not try to get hit on by the guys..thats not my intention.
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Since becoming single, I have wasted a lot of time meeting "single" women in bars that turned out to be married, to the point that I no longer even speak to women when in a bar unless she's bar tending.
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You know, I always thought in these situations people got dressed up because it made them feel good.

Maybe I'm wrong. Yes, it can be considered a motive, but how can a motivation to boost your self esteem be a bad thing?
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I get dressed up because I like looking good with or without my husband around. lol. I wouldn't wear my 'cleaning' clothes. I get dressed up when I go out with Hubs too. Show the boobies and the legs when I go out with him

I don't flirt with people when and if I go out. I just chill with the people I'm with and then go home.
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I get dressed up because I like looking good with or without my husband around. lol. I wouldn't wear my 'cleaning' clothes. I get dressed up when I go out with Hubs too. Show the boobies and the legs when I go out with him

I don't flirt with people when and if I go out. I just chill with the people I'm with and then go home.
Maybe that's the problem, the OP's wife doesn't do that. Only when GNO comes around.

I keep it hot and tight with or without my man. It turns him on either way.
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I actually do LOVE IT when my wife and I go out and she dresses super sexy showing cleavage with a short skirt or something. I just know she gets more open and flirty with me as the drinks keep flowing so I hope thst doesn't happen when I'm not around.....
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IF your W acts like you are always next to her no matter were she is at, and behaves as though you are there then she has some great boundries.
But if you see that her boundries are different from when you are present and when you are not then there is the slippery slope.

IMHO if a spouse is flirting with anyone other then ther SO then there is lack of boundries that needs to be addressed.

It sucks but when we're not with our spouse, we really don't know if there is a behavioral change that threatens the marriage.
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I actually do LOVE IT when my wife and I go out and she dresses super sexy showing cleavage with a short skirt or something. I just know she gets more open and flirty with me as the drinks keep flowing so I hope thst doesn't happen when I'm not around.....
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You're her husband. She better be open and flirty with you!

I think you're going to far with your imagination here. Just because she does it with you (her husband!) doesn't mean in any way she's doing it with strange men.

I'll tell you something else about GNO's... the girls keep men AWAY from them. They're not out for that. A gaggle of women (from what I've seen) actually keeps men away. Too many of them in one place... and they're all sticking close together. They also protect each other from really aggressive guys. That is if they're true friends.
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Do you take her to nice places? No one gets dressed up and flirty when going to a fast food place. kwim?
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She says its only for her friends and that women are different like that and basically dress up for each other and not to impress guys at the bar. Is this normally true ladies? I gotta believe part of it is wanting to get hit on by guys but she denies it.
Yes, I have found when going out with friends, we all usually tend to dress nice, etc...definitely not to impress other men...sometimes we are just going to dinner or shopping and then home.

I'm not sure if I'm trying to impress anyone, but I feel better if I am dressed nice and hair/makeup is done...whether it's GNO or a date w/my husband.
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jealous - you sound exactly like me. it would drive me insane if i thought about my husband flirting. he is a very open, friendly guy and will talk to anyone about anything, so it wouldn't surprise me if he was flirty to a waitress when he's out with his guys. i cannot allow myself to think about it too much.

as far as when women go out, we do tend to dress up for each other,and enjoy getting smiles or looks from men we don't know. it's just fun and a nice ego stroke. if you have no concerns about her fidelity i hope you can just remember that she isn't doing anything wrong and in fact her going out and doing some innocent flirting is good for your relationship.
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