Re: Wife has fallen out of love after 16 years of marriage
Last year I went across country for 6 months for work. Since I returned, I've had a difficult time going back to the "status quo".
There is a romance about going from wife & mother to single lady that is liberating and eye opening. No arguing over stupid things (who forgot to buy more toilet paper, who didn't empty the coffee pot, who left the light on, etc.). No worrying about another person's needs. I only had to worry about myself on a daily basis. Go when I wanted to go (or stay if I wanted to stay), no one to wake me up in the morning, or keep me up at night.
During this time I grew in ways, both professionally and personally, that I hadn't dreamed of. My self-esteem rose rapidly and I was feeling good about myself. Fast forward to present. DH is nagging about this, DD's are arguing about that, dog needs out, cat needs food, car needs gas, blah blah blah. It makes me reminisce about what I had.
What would have helped me was some special attention and appreciation that I was back home. Sincere words like "Boy we missed you. No one does all that you do. Thanks for doing these things again. Yes, we did them without you, but you do them better and we're so grateful, blah blah blah." It seems cheesy, but it would have helped. Plus some romance from the DH. I needed him to show me that he really missed me...and not just for the household things, but as a partner too. I'm wanting more from him and I've not been very good about articulating it.
I don't know if this helps, but it might offer a different perspective. Good luck!