Re: Boyfriend going to bachelor party
When I was 24 and planning my wedding, my biggest fear was my future hubby's bachelor party. I had nightmares, I started fights, I got mad at him. He never gave me a reason to think he would cheat with a stripper. We, like you and your man, were a team, best friends, and I did trust him.
But then my friends start telling stories about what they saw at other bachelor parties (at the time, ALL of my friends were men, I worked in a male dominated workplace), some men view it as one last night to screw another woman before committing to just one woman for the rest of their lives.
Truth be told, if he is going to cheat or get a hand job, he is going to do it and there isn't a damned thing you can do about it. Secondly, I have heard that the strippers are just part of the party. Most of it is gambling and drinking.
What I wasn't expecting is how my bachelorette party went. THAT almost stopped the wedding. Male strippers are very bold and I was molested all night by them (I had two). They would sit naked on my lap, kiss my neck, touch my legs and whisper in my ear that they wanted me. At the end of the night, I was covered in glitter and totally grossed out. One stripper actually pulled out his d!ck so only I could see it, and asked me to play with it! I told him to get bent! Then the other stripper pounced on me and tried to get me to grab his naked butt! Needless to say, I was turned off because this party was to celebrate my upcoming wedding, not to play with hairy ballz of some dude!
If you really trust him, things will be okay. But since he admitted he got a hand job at his last party, and told you about it, that it is bad form for him to have another bachelor party with strippers . His telling you about the hand job was not a smart thing to do because it put you on high alert. Of course you are going to react and be jealous! Some information should be kept secret just for your peace of mind. Now you are going to be worried the whole night of his party and that is not fair to you at all.
You need to talk to him some more. He may ignore your feelings or tell you not to worry, but he is the one who planted the seed!!!! Why would he tell you such a thing?
What is usually the young groom's downfall is peer pressure from their drunk friends. Chanting for the bachelor to do stuff to the stripper and if he doesn't, he will look like a p*ssy. No man wants to look like a p*ssy in front of his friends.
The only thing that will make both of you feel better is if he MUST have naked women for his party, GO TO A STRIP CLUB. The women cannot be touched there. It is NOT intimate so private BJ's in the bathroom do not happen. Do you think you could talk him into that? And if he gives you that crap "I am not planning the party, my best man is." SCREW THAT. YOUR feelings are more important than some horny dude who wants to oggle chicks.
As I was going up the stair . . . I saw a man who wasn't there . . . he wasn't there again today . . . I wish he would go away