Tired of the Bull

I have been in a relationship for several years now. I had come out of a bad relationship that involved cheating, lying and stealing. When I started my new relationship I had a fresh mind. I waited a year before I decided I was ready. I meet the wonderful guy who thinks the world of me. I think the world of him too. But, somewhere we lost communication. I began to get my old trust issues involved in my new relationship. I don’t think he has cheated on my physically but maybe emotionally because has females friends. In the beginning him having female friends wasn't a problem, until I talked to my friends about it how much she called and texted. She would talk about her guy issues, which I feel like she was getting a man’s opinion, but then it started cutting into the time we spent together. My friends were like wake up!! They have told me that they wouldn't be able to handle their man talking to another female as a friend period, that male and females couldn't be friends. I began to think, was I blind? Now I constantly find things that I don’t agree with that normally before I started discussion my relationship with my friends I would have been okay with. What has happened? Now, I feel horrible because I have painted a negative picture of the man I love. And a negative picture of me for still being with him. He tells me that I over analysis what he tells me. He would like for me to take what his say for face value. That I scared, and he wouldn’t hurt me. He feels like he can't talk to me about certain situations because I always have a negative response. I am driving the man of my dreams away. I shouldn't have talked to anyone but him about my issues and I think everything would have been okay. He feels like I am trying to push him away every time he feels comfortable, and that I knock him back to square one. He is a very peace, non-confrontational person. My friends think that he has manipulated me into thinking that what and how he acts is my fault. I think I have some type of roll in this situation…and he does too…but should I try to fix it? Help

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Hey,

If your man feels like he can't talk to you about certain situations because of your negative response, then you have to fix it. You are driving him away slowly but it isn't too late to fix it. The next time you have any discussion, just be a little open minded and keep your negative emotions aside. Unless he does something completely wrong, you shouldn't let your negative experiences from past relationship ruin this relationship. I know that even if something happens that reminds you of the past bad experiences, all those negative feelings come rushing back. But you have to find a way to control it and eventually forget it. A good way would be to talk to him about it and let him know the reason for your negative responses. I am pretty sure he would understand and try to help you.