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lonesomegra

Thanks for the lesson on hygiene rks1 but I can assure you that I don't suffer from bad breath. I brush and floss twice a day and use a Colgate 360 toothbrush which I use on my tongue, gums and inside my cheeks. I had a complete dental checkup earlier this year including having a professional cleaning done.

On a further point relating to kissing my W is not a fan of a 2 day growth which she finds very prickly and also if I kiss her neck with or without stubble it 'tickles too much.'

lamaga

Lonesome, I haven't commented, I've been sitting on my hands, but oh wow. No, this is not right, and this is not good. None of it.

Not my life, not my business. But I wouldn't be putting up with it.

seriously_yours

Oh the minutia of everyday life and the drama that surrounds it.
One night while fooling around just a little my HFG asked me why I was spitting in her mouth....
I could have been insulted, but chose to take it as a challenge
I just limbered up and covered her face with a ridiculously slobbery tongue lashing... suddenly a little spit in her mouth was not such a bad thing
Then we went to bed and made out like bandits....

Moral of the story - Push through these little awkward moments-
or
- Sometimes you need to let the little head think for you -

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what you do speaks so loud, I can't hear what you say

lonesomegra

I do understand that I might be making a mountain out of a molehill but I think through MC I've come to recognise that certain small indicators can be the tip of the iceburg. I am trying not to give up on my W but I am afraid that I might throw in the towel if stuff like this continues on.

I will also admit that in the past I have kissed my W at inappropriate times such as when I have been totally lathered with sweat and my lips taste very salty. But this was not the case this particular time.

Mistys dad

Her: "Honey, sometimes your kisses are kind of slimy"

You: "Really? Show me what I am doing wrong"

(Kiss, deeper, deeper, deeper)

You: "Was that better? Can you show me again?"

(Kiss again, deeper, deeper, deeper)

You: " I was wondering if you could show me the best way to rub your boobs as well"

(rub, rub, rub per instructions.)

You: "Wow, that's great! While we're in a teaching moment here, I'd like to let you know what I like during a BJ. You've been so kind to show me what you like, the least I could do is retun the favor........."

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The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?

OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.

Ten_year_hubby

lonesomegra,

Sure. Your wife is searching for a (present) reason to explain her feeling(s) and this what she comes up with. It has nothing to do with your or your kisses and everything to do with her previous life experiences and feelings caused by these experiences that manifest themselves in the present. There is probably no married person who has not experienced this to some degree whether they know it or not.

The question we need to explore is why you feel insulted and how we can learn to let it go.

Deejo

Serious question ...

Based upon your other posts, are you reading between the lines on this or do you really think it's a simple inappropriate comment about how you kiss?

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"I figured out they were serious eventually but was thinking it was ridiculous. I wanted to kick them in the balls." - Trenton

GTdad

The moisture content of your kisses is likely the least of your problems.

In my book, the above is HUGE. Of course she doesn't like your kisses; she has very little respect for you.

Deejo

No respect, no attraction.

It's painfully, and unfortunately quite simple.

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"I figured out they were serious eventually but was thinking it was ridiculous. I wanted to kick them in the balls." - Trenton

lonesomegra

To further expand on my wife's background, her parents split up when she was young but never divorced and both her sisters' marriages have broken up. She is actually doing well hanging in there with me. There are some great moments of attraction between us but perhaps when her batteries are running low she gets very grouchy and lashes out.

Hey I am no great shakes myself and for a long period of time thought it all right to throw 'jokes' at her but suddenly I realised that the 'jokes' were no longer funny but were starting to hurt. I have made a huge effort to correct this behaviour and made a sincere apology to her in MC for my past words. I don't know if I let these actions linger too long and my wife is finding it harder than me to break the habit of throwing insults.

As many have pointed out I need to learn the art of real communication and find a way to speak up if I find W's words hurtful or down-putting. I need to learn to phrase my feelings in a fashion that does not cause rancour.