Prospero

Dean, actually you are right about my history, so maybe you picked up on something subliminal in what I said!

My wife is being very sweet at the moment, so I shall sign off and work some more on the important things.

Goldmember357

this is not good at all why would your wife hate your grey hair? its natural that will occur

baffles my mind

suesmith

I havent read the entire thread, but isnt your wife asking you to color your hair sort of like the husband requiring his wife to stay thin. ( I know thats not what this thread is about... but, it seems to be a recurring topic in the forum)

If its ok to 'require' her to stay thin.... shouldnt it be ok for her to 'require' him to color his hair?

just asking....

MominMayberry

Women want a youthful partner same as men. The only thing that is wrong is how she said it.

Prospero

Thanks for commenting. I don't think they are the same. One involves keeping the body in good health, and not letting things slip, the other involves faking.

A closer analogy might be the husband demanding the wife wears an uncomfortable girdle to hold her figure in.

Coaster

You are 63...If you dye your hair you will look worse and even look like you have a tupee on...lol....Does your wife dye her hair or does she look like an old granny...lol??

Prospero

Coaster, please do not speak about my wife in that discourteous way.

Needpeace

[QUOTE=Prospero;754619]I think spouses have a duty to look good for one another. But there is a difference between not wearing slobby clothes and covering your hair with chemicals to make it look unnatural.

Yes Prospero, this would be my hang up with being requested to dye my hair, CHEMICALS, Yikes! I personally think grey looks quite distinguished & attractive on our male counterparts. I have been slowly going grey since my early 20's, my husband likes my long hair, so do I, I'm still not sure about my grey though but that's way it stays. I like to lead by example when it comes to my kids as well, we have always been fairly natural livers, with our youngest daughter in cancer remission the last thing I would encourage her to do is load her head up with chemicals time & time again when she comes of age, this approach seems to have been noted by our eldest daughter now in her 20's and doesn't dye her hair.
I think stating this fact to your wife is a fair rebuttle to this issue.

Jimena

This issue may be a symptom of deeper issues with aging. Perhaps your grey hair is too obvious of a reminder about your mortality and the thought of losing you, or of her own mortality since you both are so close in age. Is this a topic you have discussed in detail? and without it being prompted by your hair?

cory275

i saw this infomercial the other night and thought about this post... it was about a certain type of hair coloring to keep the salt and pepper thing.. but a little heavier on the pepper side. might be worth some research if you're still considering.

i'd turn it into something positive if i were you... "i'll color my hair if you.... " i'm sure you'll think of something creative. see how badly she wants it

but i'd do something small if my husband would be more attracted to me. shoo... i dont want him looking at someone else when he told me dead in my face that he'd think i was hotter if i did xyz.

good luck!

Runs like Dog

Make her a deal. You BOTH dye your hair whatever color the other one wants. No bargaining.

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Prospero

Thanks, everyone, for your comments.