I'm frustrated and I can't say anything and really don't know what to do.
Long story short last several years marriage has been failing. Husband may have had a porn addiction
or possibly not. He went to meetings, had one per his admission, but now doesn't. End of story. Gets irritated if I ask questions, I guess i'm supposed to understand the sentence or two explanation?! I can't even begin to wrap my head around what exactly the issue is/was.
We saw a marriage therapist and it was hugely frustrating because compromise just isn't in his vocabulary. We spent 2 sessions haggling over the same issue before therapist stepped in and made him compromise. He often didn't follow through with things we'd agreed upon in sessions either.
So fast forward to now and he comes in a couple weeks ago from HIS therapy and says THEY (therapist/him) think I don't trust him and he wants to know what he can do to fix it. I don't know specifically what made them think this? He hasn't said, but I do know that part of his therapy is learning how to deal with me
I'm not quite sure how I feel about that... I've done some therapy in the past and wasn't allowed to focus on the other problem people in my relationships, but made to focus on myself, lol! Which leads me to if you are focusing on the problem people in your life are you focusing on yourself? And doesn't this just lead to feeling more negatively towards the "problem people" in your life?
I feel like negativity is a huge issue. I'm trying to focus on staying out of the negativity and being positive. I'm also trying to focus on me and not being in his business. I think the biggest challenge for me at this point is not being sucked into the drama. I know that partly that change is causing tension with him because the normal cycle isn't being played out. Kind of stirring the pot and getting negative attention.
Anyway just frustrated I guess...he'll head back to therapist this week and tell him I was uncooperative in giving him feedback on trust and act as though he "tried."