05-22-2012, 03:47 PM
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: My side of the street
| | Re: Your Biggest Argument Ever...
Oh, the arguments; or should I say, the we-will-never-discuss-any-issues stance. My husband got angry, but his parents taught him, from an early age, that anger was BAD and an unnecessary emotion. Talk about pulling a major mind-f**k on a child ....
Our worst? Over nothing specific. He was drunk (as usual) and started talking down to me, making comments such as "gold digger" and "trailer park trash." Unfortunately, it was one of the few times I have been drunk in my life.
I am an extremely ugly drunk. Really mean. And I don't hold back. No holds barred.
I gave it back to him tit-for-tat. Even though I was pretty drunk, I remember snarling at him, "Just look at you, you little piece of sh!!. Yeah, big shot ... 'The Colonel's Son.'" (My FIL was West Point and retired after 30 years a full Colonel/Army.)
That argument was very ugly. After that, I NEVER got drunk again, and drank sparingly. But that night, in June 2006, when I erupted like Mount Helena .... that was beyond ugly.
Also put the final nail in the coffin of a dying marriage.
Plus side is I no longer engage him, even when he does his best to engage me, and doggoned if he doesn't give it his best shot about once a year.
Done. Over. Forgotten. Like I put it, "long time comin', long time gone."
I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.
You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.