05-30-2012, 09:02 AM
Join Date: Jan 2010
| | Re: Confussed and alone
Your first love WILL always be special. But the right choice? Not by a landslide. You're an adult, and you need to act like one. Running to a guy who clearly
is messed up, selfish, and NOT looking out for your best interests is absolutely the wrong thing to do.
Originally Posted by ShortyKolk
I think more details will help. I met my first husband at 15 and felt from the moment I met him that I wanted to be with him forever. We got married when I was 18 and just over 3 months later I was deployed to Iraq. While I was gone my ex had a lot of issues. He wanted me home very badly and started cutting himself in hopes that this would get them to send me home, which it didn't. He then tried to tell my command that I was suicidal and needed to be sent home, which again failed. He made it very hard for me to talk to him because any time I told him that I was fine that seemed to upset him more. Around our one year anniversary I got an email stating he wanted a divorce. One thing I had begged him about before leaving was to not send me a letter or email saying this and to wait till I was home if he ever felt this way. He didn't and after recieving this email I didn't talk to him again until after I was back in the states. Once home I found out he had slept with my best friend in our home. I filed the paper work and a month later we were divorced.
I met my current husband while we were in Iraq. We were just friends until we got home but we were increadably close. We were married only 2 months after my divorce was finalized and have been married for almost 8 years and have 2 sons.
I think I still love my first husband becasue he was my first love and there is something special about that.
Seriously, THAT is what you think you're in love with?