ShortyKolk

I was "married" for a year and a half to my first husband. All but about 3 months of that we were apart because I was deployed in the ARMY. Now I am re-married and love my husband very much, but I still love my first husband. Him and I still talk and I still feel just as close to him as I did when we first met. I don't know what to do about my feelings for him.

Onceandforall

Hi

As difficult as it sounds, you must be honest and determine which of these two men you want.
I am sorry you have this dilemma and hope you sort it out.
Your intuition will guide you.

EleGirl

Why did you divorce your first husband if you still love him? Does he say that he still loves you?

How long was it between your marriages?

How long have you been married to your current husband?

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The Renegade

That and: Is it possible that you didn't marry your second H out of genuine motives? Rather than to proof something to yourself or to your first H? (Seen that already quite a number of times).

In any way, I believe sooner or later you have to make a decision or it will be made for you.

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turnera

We need more details about how this happened.

messunited

It looks like you took the decision to your second marriage in a hurry without thinking wisely with patience. Otherwise, how could you leave him if you still loved him..
But if you still love him, you should discuss this with your second husband as he is also involved in this story and he will be the one left scarred if you both get together again...

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ShortyKolk

I think more details will help. I met my first husband at 15 and felt from the moment I met him that I wanted to be with him forever. We got married when I was 18 and just over 3 months later I was deployed to Iraq. While I was gone my ex had a lot of issues. He wanted me home very badly and started cutting himself in hopes that this would get them to send me home, which it didn't. He then tried to tell my command that I was suicidal and needed to be sent home, which again failed. He made it very hard for me to talk to him because any time I told him that I was fine that seemed to upset him more. Around our one year anniversary I got an email stating he wanted a divorce. One thing I had begged him about before leaving was to not send me a letter or email saying this and to wait till I was home if he ever felt this way. He didn't and after recieving this email I didn't talk to him again until after I was back in the states. Once home I found out he had slept with my best friend in our home. I filed the paper work and a month later we were divorced.
I met my current husband while we were in Iraq. We were just friends until we got home but we were increadably close. We were married only 2 months after my divorce was finalized and have been married for almost 8 years and have 2 sons.
I think I still love my first husband becasue he was my first love and there is something special about that.

turnera

Your first love WILL always be special. But the right choice? Not by a landslide. You're an adult, and you need to act like one. Running to a guy who clearly is messed up, selfish, and NOT looking out for your best interests is absolutely the wrong thing to do.
Seriously, THAT is what you think you're in love with?