05-28-2012, 05:44 AM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | Re: Does Does he really love you if he treats you like these?
Your husband sounds like a real d!ck. The things you said he does and says to you had steam coming out of MY ears! He is taking you for granted big time. It sounds like he feels he can treat you any way he likes because he knows you won't go anywhere.
You know deep in your heart that he is not going to change. This will only get worse the longer you stay with him. It's sad that you are about to bring a child into this. I'll bet he will be an absentee father as well. This man should never have gotten married to anyone. He has no idea what marriage, respect, and thinking of someone other than himself is like. He may never learn.
You must prepare yourself to be a single parent. You may even be a single parent while married to your husband. It's better to be alone instead of being lonely while in a marriage.
It also sounds like he is a narcissist. Narcissists rarely change because they think they are perfect and everything that goes wrong is YOUR fault. You cannot reason with people like this. They are not wired that way. God, I am so sorry you are going through this. Be strong, get counseling for yourself if you can. Counseling will provide you with the tools you need to move on and be strong.
Your child and you deserve so much better. If I had my magic wand, I would turn him into a toad, oh wait, he already is a toad!
Keep coming here to TAM to vent, cry, ask advice, anything. Just get things off your chest, don't hold them in. You must go into self-preservation mode now. My prayers are with you.
The snake is notoriously tempting
But the snake is fair.
What is worse than not knowing?
To live or disappear?