Originally Posted by LadyFrogFlyAway View Post
I firmly believe the man should say it first, but I'm a fuddy-duddy traditionalist about that sort of thing. I also think the man should do the proposing.
I think women tend to fall in love more quickly, and I needed to know for sure that he felt it.
Dh said it first.
I so agree with you Lady Frog on this one!
I am very old fashioned in this way. I also feel the man should initially do the pursuing... and hopefully express his sentimental feelings when he is really being torn up over wanting too...to his love in his timing
... oh the joy of waiting for that.
I would never jump ahead and take THAT moment from myself. That is too precious.
This is just my opinion here ..... I think the woman should do & be all she can be if she has fallen in love, show her feelings in actions, being there, how she looks at him, treat him like a King... but wait for him to share his heart...... With all that going on.... he will feel confident in expressing this to her...feeling, by her actions...she feels it too....without any fear of rejection. He will even feel good he did it 1st...being the man.
Expressing our deepest feelings of love should never be rushed
though. Far too many DO this, getting caught up in what they think is there....or wants to be there.... but it is too early in the game.... then bail and leave the woman devestated - a friend of mine right now is reeling over her ex boyfriends words, asking me over & over..."why did he say that to me??!@#$%^
My husband definitely said it 1st, it was even before we 1st kissed...he did it pretty early too - even though that isn't always such a good thing.... but still... this brought me such Joy, comfort, trust in him, in us... and all of those romantic feelings came rushing over me like a flood, I felt safe in his arms.
Others have mentioned this, I agree....I feel If I said it 1st....it might scare him off ..or it might be putting him under pressure to speak that back to me
.. and this just wouldn't be the same (for me), as his doing it on his own.
The greatest love songs ever sung were penned by men in love, is anything more special than them expressing this 1st - I would call those the magical moments of a lifetime. Something us women write about exuberantly in our diarys & run & tell all our GF's. Maybe when we are older it is different I suppose, I am thinking of "Young love" here.
Doesn't make it wrong for women to do this though!! There is no law written.
Once he unloads that....and I feel he is totally into ME...just me.... then I will lavish that to the high heavens back at him. Look out baby!