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I'm bored. I'm so bored, I've cried about it. Ive made a million suggestions on what we could do as a family so that we can get out and have some fun for a change. Suggestions like the movies, museams, waterparks, the beach, anything for goodness sakes.
My husband always has an exuse on why we can't go like: I have to work on my truck, or simply; I just want to relax today, or we don't have the money.
The thing is, that most of the suggestions that I have made are free on certain days, or free all together. The only suggestion that he has taken me up on is fishing. I admit, fishing can be fun, but we can't take the kids fishing with us, they are too young for one, and they don't have the attention span for it. I want to take them somewhere that will excite them!
To top it off, he has failed to buy me a single gift for valentines day, my birthday, and mother's day. He will get the boys gifts, but not me. Im not big on getting a ton of things, so I wouldn't ask for anything big; but would a single rose, or some candy be to much to ask?
The point that I am trying to make is that we have been together for five years, we have a son together as well as the two sons I have from another marrage. He loves them all like they were always his, and always will be.
We aren't married yet. Mention marriage, and he goes silent. He's NOT cheating on me, and I know he never would..but I feel like I'm fading in to the back ground, and I'm just not important to him anymore. Important enough to spend some time with?
When is enough, enough?
Sorry, Animegirl, but it sounds like you're in a relationship of convenience rather than one of commitment. This could change, however, if he decides that he deeply wants to be with you.
To get there, I suggest addressing that boredom. When we feel bored, we are boring to other people. Go do those things without him. You'll have something to talk to him about that can give you opportunities to say, "This was so much fun! The only way the day could have been better is if you'd have been able to share it with us." By being the person who enlivens his life instead of placing demands on it, you'll instantly be more appealing to him.
I'm bored. I'm so bored, I've cried about it. Ive made a million suggestions on what we could do as a family so that we can get out and have some fun for a change. Suggestions like the movies, museams, waterparks, the beach, anything for goodness sakes.
My husband always has an exuse on why we can't go like: I have to work on my truck, or simply; I just want to relax today, or we don't have the money.
The thing is, that most of the suggestions that I have made are free on certain days, or free all together. The only suggestion that he has taken me up on is fishing. I admit, fishing can be fun, but we can't take the kids fishing with us, they are too young for one, and they don't have the attention span for it. I want to take them somewhere that will excite them!
Take the kids and leave him home! Just because he doesn't want to have fun doesn't mean you have to be bored!
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Originally Posted by Animegirl1985
To top it off, he has failed to buy me a single gift for valentines day, my birthday, and mother's day. He will get the boys gifts, but not me. Im not big on getting a ton of things, so I wouldn't ask for anything big; but would a single rose, or some candy be to much to ask?
When is enough, enough?
Do you buy him gifts? If you do then stop. Maybe he will get the hint. If not then at least you will start saving some money
If you can't take the kids and go... because you don't have a vehicle, or money....
There are still cheap things that you and the kids can do. If your point is to entertain them. One is a walking scavenger hunt around the neighborhood. Make slime. Homemade bubbles.... you can make them giant with a hula hoop! Camping out in the backyard.
Google it. Then do things without bf. If he wants to have fun and be involved he will tag along, or join in. If he really doesn't want to be bothered, then you will know.
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