Re: am I an ungrateful wife?
That's the worst, feeling hungry AND getting grouchy with one another. My honest opinion? You might not like it...but my perspective on what you have written is that you put your man in a no-win situation. I'll speculate that he felt disappointed too about not going to the restaurant that had the 2hr wait - because he knew that's what you wanted and most of the time, men want to provide for their wives.
The next restaurant had a wait too and you asked him what you should both do. It sounds like you ranted about not wanting to eat at a burger place because you wanted to eat at the restaurant. You were both hungry but there was a wait time. So he tried to appease you by putting you on the wait list and then that wasn't the right thing by you either. You had a go at him for that. Sounds to me like he couldn't catch a break from you.
I wasn't there, I'm just going by what I pick up from your post. In my opinion, there's a lot to be said for rolling with the punches. I wonder how the scenario would have played out if after the first restaurant, you'd simply shrugged it off and told him you'd both make the best of the morning regardless? It feels to me you were pushing for something that just wasn't going to happen and is it possible you threw a bit of a tantrum about that? You were then both hungry on top of that which likely sparked even more agitation.
I'm not saying he's innocent in all this. Taking off and leaving you is not a mature way of handling things. It sounds like you both need to approach these sorts of situations differently. Start with yourself and see how it goes.
I wouldn't be down with sleeping in the car. I don't know what that's about, but your post was largely about the restaurant scenario so I've stuck with responding about that. It didn't sound like he wanted to eat at the burger place because it was cheap. It sounds like it was a quick easy option for his hunger. Next time, reservation if possible, keep some snack bars or fruit handy (lol), and perhaps it's worth trying to roll with it and let go a bit more. What do you think?
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