05-31-2012, 01:40 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | Re: What to do?
Originally Posted by blondy12003
I'm telling him he needs to have a better attitude on life in general because constant negativity out of anyone is draining to say the least and be supportive like he keeps saying he's going to. Posted via Mobile Device
You would be amazed at how positive ones outlook in life is and how supportive they can be when they have a healthy, fullfilling sexual relationship with their wife. Probably would do wonders for his PTSD as well. Your attitude makes him feel unloved. That hangs around his neck like an anchor and keeps him down.
If you want this to work, sit him down and explain that you understand that withholding sex from him is probably a contributing factor to his attitude (even if you don't think it is) and tell him that you will do your part to rectify that. Then take him to the bedroom and do your thing. Be available to him for the next month and then if nothing changes, it never will and you can leave knowing you did all you could.
I can almost guarentee you that after one month your household will be a place of marital bliss and if it isn't, then your husband is indeed tha a$$ you make him out to be and no one will fault you for moving on.
You have got to get out of the "I'm not rewarding him for bad behavior" attitude. That stance is not all bad but we're talking about a marital dynamic here that needs to be broken and he quite frankly might not know how. His attitude will change all on its own, with no cognitive help from himself if you just try this.