Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Kansas City Metro area
Re: Why Does this Annoy me? Husband won't take my advice.
LOL... some of the joys of marriage!
The same thing happens in my marriage, and I have to confess I've been that way toward other people, too. I've come to realize it's not a bad thing that means I'm being ignored, although it still rubs me that way sometimes.
It's more that the person doubts themselves, wants to trust you, but needs that extra little nudge to get there.
My husband and I had a recent disagreement that involved his teen daughter, who I think needs a lot more discipline than she gets. Obviously, this isn't a once-and-done kind of issue, and since it is his child I usually defer to him. In this instance, however, she crossed a big line that I wasn't ok with at all, and I gave him my opinion (he asked for it). He didn't adopt my suggestions. Then, when her mother was around, a woman who has been completely absent from this child's life from the age of 2 until just last year, he asked her opinion on the situation. She said essentially the same thing I had, and he finally took some actions that were more in the direction I felt appropriate.
I teased him about taking her opinion seriously, and he said the same thing as your husband, "No, that's not it." I told him I knew that and was kidding, and that I'm just happy he is seeing the validity of my viewpoint.
What the heck... progress is progress, right? If your man's dad had a different opinion than you did, you can bet your hubby would look for yet another opinion. It's not about you, it's about him.