louise1957

After 28 years of marriage, and the kids raised and gone, I can no longer leave my husband as I had once planned. I would be the worst heel any has ever met. He's been diagnosed with a disabling disease. I'm trapped.

I have been at odds with my husband for many years, off and on. If we were on a casual drive and I asked him to turn right at the next corner he would purposely ask, "What?"
I would repeat myself, as the car was quickly approaching the corner.
Then he would say, "Why? Oops, I already missed it."
-- Or, he's putting up a hideous painting in our living room that doesn't match, and I had asked him not to. Or, he's sneeking my things out to the curb on trash day. Mine's trash, his is treasure! Or, he's putting up a rooster weather vane, on the top of our house, after I begged him not to.

I told him once, "They (the kids) won't be little forever." He simply does not, truely does not, think he is treating me with disrespect at all.

Not to mention how he complains if I get a doctor bill that has to be paid!! My blood pressure has been way too high for months now. And I've put it on him. Told him to call the family doctor so I could get on the blood pressure meds. He asked me if I could wait for awhile! How long is awhile? It's been a month and a half now. And I've mentioned it 3 or 4 times. We do have insurance.

So, now I'm trapped. But, hey, I could end up with a heart attack or a stroke!

Sensitive

It feels pretty safe to vent here. I understand the frustrations of a husband that just is annoying. The examples you mentioned seemed petty, but it can really trigger some deeper emotions. It does seem cruel to leave a spouse with an illness, but you have to look out for yourself first.

justean

u know what, you have one life to live and you puttin the rest of it to waste on a trapped environment.
you only have yourself to blame.
go it alone - admittedly hard. but isnt it hard already.