hi everyone, i just wanted to vent and to get some advice on my problem. soo here we go!
I have been with my husband for 3 years, recently married. I knew he had a female friend but i have never, still to this day, met her. He texts her and talks to her on the phone but never in front of me. I've seen that he calls her babe and that is a HUGE no-no for me. I confronted him and asked him why would he be calling her that, and i think its disrespectful.
before i go on, here is some back ground,
when we first got together we where driving and my ex called me. not the first time but i was ignoring him, nothing to say to my ex but he wanted to get back together and i told him no. and that was the only time i talked to him after we broke up. so the phone rings and my husband asked who it was and i stupidly said my sister. i know it was wrong but i just didn't want to get my husband mad. but he saw who it really was and we fought. i apologized and told him why i did it, even changed my number(glad to do it) and deleted his number. the only reason it was still in there was to see if he called so i can just ignore it. had a crappy phone at the time and couldn't just block it.
so I thought we where fine after that. wrong. he started acting suspicious, and like a fly to honey, i couldn't resist finding out why. he was texting 2 other girls.
another big fight. and told me that is was to get back at me. i talked to him and actually made him cry. i poured my heart out cause by then i was falling in love with him.
after that, i had trust issues but wanted to work threw all that. but every time he starts to act funny i get a feeling and shame on me, look threw his phone. but every time i did i found something. be it porn(dont really care) looking up female escorts(has stopped) going on dating websites(stopped. i know this for sure) and the reason? to piss me off. he said, if your going to look in it im just going to give you something to find. i dont want to look, but he acts funny, and makes me think bad stuff. and im usually right.
then his "best" female friend came into the picture. i was fine untill i saw that he was calling her babe. i talked to him about it and he said thats what he calls her sometimes cause they been friends for soooo long. shes married and has a toddler, really? i dont think her husband likes that. and again he said its to piss me off. WHY? im 5 months pregnant and dont want stress like this. i cryed all day, when i found out and ignored him. he apologized and said he would never do it again. that he asked her permission to do it to piss me off.
ohh and the best part? i called his friend to just talk to her. tell her the little favor he asked of her is over and just to meet her. but she was rude and got defensive. and lied to me. told me she hasnt talked to him in months. please. i used the same number in his phone to call her. i let it go and just said oh ok. i didnt feel like fighting, but hopefully it showed my husband the kind of person she is. why lie?
my husbands mom and grandma dont like her either. my MIL told he that when he would be single she would come searching for him and want to hang out with him all day until her husband got home. who does that? i think she likes him as more than a friend. cause hes never going to be single again. i love him with everything i have. and he loves me too. i just want it all to stop.
i want to tell my husband that enough is enough. i dont want him talking to her but can i do that? am i wrong for being so cold hearted? or am i doing the right thing by protecting my family and trying to make it stronger?