All my life I've never been one of those girls who, growing up, fantasized about finding prince charming and their wedding day. As far back as I can recall, I've never really cared much for getting married: if it happens, it happens, but I won't go into any relationship expecting to get a ring - I would happily cohabit with the right person indefinitely without the pressures of marriage.
As I grew up and became more aware of romantic relationships and the inevitable issues that crop up over time, I started developing a fear of marriage, which has gotten much worse as of late. I've only been on this site for a day and I've already come across so many stories of infidelity, abuse, resentment towards one's spouse, selfishness, hurt, divorce, etc, that I find myself wondering "what's the point?" Is it really that bad? Or do I need to look around a bit more to start seeing the positive stories? And is it safe to assume that the majority of marriages these days are doomed from the start as a result of people's different expectations going into the marriage?
For those who've had long-term success in their marriages, what's the secret? How do you make it work?? I'm not expecting anyone to change my mind about marriage (as it stands, I still don't plan on ever getting married, complications or no complications - it's probably just not for me), I would just like to understand why there's so much negativity about marriage, something that's presumably sacred?
Kay :scratchhead:
As I grew up and became more aware of romantic relationships and the inevitable issues that crop up over time, I started developing a fear of marriage, which has gotten much worse as of late. I've only been on this site for a day and I've already come across so many stories of infidelity, abuse, resentment towards one's spouse, selfishness, hurt, divorce, etc, that I find myself wondering "what's the point?" Is it really that bad? Or do I need to look around a bit more to start seeing the positive stories? And is it safe to assume that the majority of marriages these days are doomed from the start as a result of people's different expectations going into the marriage?
For those who've had long-term success in their marriages, what's the secret? How do you make it work?? I'm not expecting anyone to change my mind about marriage (as it stands, I still don't plan on ever getting married, complications or no complications - it's probably just not for me), I would just like to understand why there's so much negativity about marriage, something that's presumably sacred?
Kay :scratchhead: