That's up to you. Whatever makes you comfortable. You don't even have to put anything if you don't want to.
Thought on it and came up with one of each.
One year, early on in our years together, he did a very nice, ven romantic thing for me. Think it was right after DS was born, either Christmas or anniversary (they're within weeks of each other). I was sleeping in, rare thing at that time as we had DS was not quite a year old. STBXH, ever so gently put a gold chain bracelet around my wrist, being careful not to wake me. I awoke later to find that delicate, little chain on me. I was so moved by this. Still makes me misty eyed now, even more so since that guy no longer exists.
The first poem I ever had published was written about him, for him. It was full of the love I ffelt for him. Had it printed up in calligraphy, beauifully matted and framed. Gave to him randomly, no special occasion, a true "just because" gift.
H and I started MC awhile ago because we were in a crisis state and it was appropriate at the time. Right now it's not completely necessary and it really interferes with our scheduling. We have had to reschedule several appointments because life gets in the way. H has been requesting that we take a break from MC because he feels as though it's interfering with family time and it's not particularly important right now. I have been battling with him to go to one more appointment before discontinuing because I don't want to burn a bridge with this therapist. Today he didn't put up a fight with me when I reminded him about the appointment. It's simple but it meant a lot to me.
Wife does a lot of good things for me. Most of them xxx-rated, so, no details.
One thing I want to mention, though: Whenever I do something nice, little, tiny pieces of something small (and even things I don't do particularly for her), she verbally thanks me for it.
I pour water for the plants, she says "Thank you, honey." I put the plates up for dinner, she says "Thank you." I pay for coffee at a Starbuck's, take the plate, we sit down, first thing she says is: "Thank you."
This is such a small gesture that is easily overlooked and it even took me some time to realize the dimension of it. It just makes me feel super-appreciated, makes me feel like I do lots of useful things around and it even keeps me hooked on doing more.
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and haven't seen each other in about a month. The other day we were texting back and forth about something random. I sent him a text saying "I miss you, btw" and here's how the rest of that conversation went on:
Him: I miss you more, just so you know
Me: Hmmm sure
Him: True story
Me: Tell me more
Him: I have a picture of you on my iPad that I kiss once in a while and I was thinking about you
Me: You just made me smile
Him: You make me smile all the time
Him: I love you
Me: Love you too