ladybird

I left my husband 3 months ago, Long story.. Anyway-

I just found out today by my husband's son that He and his girlfriend are pregnant. They want me to go to the clinic with them to get the pregnancy test (to confirm).(he hasn't even called his mom to tell yet) I am not sure if i should go or not. I am no longer with his dad, but i have been his other mother since he was 4. And he likes me a lot more then his own mother.

Should i go or not go?

Gaia

I'd go.

Chelle D

If you care about your step son at all... then honor his wishes.

Unless YOU really feel uncomfortable being the mother figure for him now... THEN make an excuse about not feeling right about it.

But unless the kid has asked all 3 of you adults to go with I would not back out on the kid now, in his hour of need.

There is a reason he picked you for the emotional support of finding this results at the doctors office. Don't blow that trust.

Edit - and as always-- let him/them be the ones to break the news to his biological mother & his father.

ladybird

I was thinking the exact same thing..

Dollystanford

I would go - he clearly trusts you and wants you there, the ex doesn't come into the equation

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Encore DT

Did you and the dad leave things off on good terms? If so then I think going would be the right thing to do.

ladybird

His dad already knows.. I have always thought of his son as my own. Holy Crap I am going to be a Grandma!!!

ladybird

Good terms? Not so much.

Chelle D

I don't think her relationship to his dad makes a hill of beans to the kid right now.

Even if it was my nephew, or my best friends kid that asked me to go to the clinic... I would. No question about it.


Also, give the best support & advice you think is appropriate if they ask for it. But encourage them to talk to the original mother as soon as they feel comfortable about it.

eowyn

You raised him like your own son since he was 4. And he seems to treat you as his mother even though you are no longer with his dad, and wants you (or needs you) there on the special day. I have no question in my mind that irrespective of your equation with his dad, you should go That would be the right thing to do. You broke up with his dad, not with him. He can still be your son.

If you run into his dad just say hello and be civilized. I am sure you wouldn't feel good about it if you choose not to go. Go there, support the son, and be cool about the whole thing. And congratulations to you on the good news!

Toffer

I'd definitely go.

I think this is one of those cases that if you don't, sometime down the road you'll regret it

Mrs.K

I would go. It must make you feel good that he trusts you so much and despite the fact that you are no longer with his dad he still very much wants you in his life!

Congrats on the new life that will be coming into the family

ladybird

I am going to go. I know if i didn't I would regret it.. Thank you all =)

ComicBookLady

Yes, because this is about your relationship with a son (or person you consider to be your child on some level) not about your relationship with his father. Be there for him at this special time!

ladybird

I went today.. She is pregnant, but they aren't sure how far along she is, so she goes back tomorrow morning for an ultrasound..(I am staying home for that one.) YAY.. I am going to be a grandma!!! =)