General Relationship DiscussionAlthough anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.
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I always brag on my hubby for this.... when we were dating, my husband for my 21st birthday (10 years ago) took me to dinner, had flowers on the table.... lol... but had an arrangement and had the gifts he had purchased for me, already wrapped and given to the waiter, so with each course of our meal (it was a nice upscale place) a new gift came with the food, each time a new surprise! We were also sitting very close to the piano player and at the end of our evening danced to "Time of my Life" It was so sweet, so thoughtful, so creative, and so romantic. (Sigh) Funny side story, I was an hour late from traffic, and he had been sitting at this table by himself, word apparently had spread that he was waiting on a "girl" and when I finally got there, everyone clapped... I was so embarassed! lol but it is a night I will never forget.
Funny side story, I was an hour late from traffic, and he had been sitting at this table by himself, word apparently had spread that he was waiting on a "girl" and when I finally got there, everyone clapped... I was so embarassed! lol but it is a night I will never forget.
When we were still engaged, we were in a car accident. I had ended up with a fractured and dislocated hip, which required surgery. My husband was still a senior in high school at the time (he was 18, I was 24). While I was in the hospital, he had a bouquet of blue tipped carnations sent to me. My favorite flower is the carnation, and my favorite color is blue. He wanted to send blue carnations, but they said it wasn't possible. But the thought that he remembered my favorites and put them together was so sweet.
Then, when I was recovering at home, I was on "hip precautions". We were living with my parents, and they insisted on us sleeping in separate rooms. I slept in my sister's room, in a hospital bed. Anyway, I had a wound that required dressing changes... I wasn't allowed to use the bathroom like everyone else, etc. That man cleaned out and repacked my wound, without even flinching. He didn't even think twice about doing any of the other things I needed done. It was a very humble, and in some ways humiliating, thing. But he did these things because he loves me...not out of duty.
At work... he was on medical light duty due to foot injury. Was working down in breakroom on inventory cards. I was the office girl, in charge of computer inventories...
They called me down to the room because he had a "problem". When I got there, there were all these people, a cake & a ring box in the center of the cake. He put the ring on my finger & I literally floated all the way back up the stairs to show the girls my ring.
I'm sorry about the list... sort of sinking into depression mode so making a list to try to prevent that.
He's brought me a dozen roses before after a huge fight.
He bought me a heart necklace and heart ring set.
He made the trip from LA to NE to see our daughter being born... (That was the plan but he ended up having to leave and she ended up being born a few days after he left)
He did get to see his son born.
He has told me I look sexy throughout all three pregnancies... and even groped, bent me over, ect... (k thats not really sweet i guess but it is positive right?)
Anytime he DOES help me out with things around the house without me even mentioning it (even if it's not very often) I really do appreciate it and i find it sweet.
He bought me that book...
He surprised me with a parrot
He helped me burn my cats body when we found her. (That may seem weird to some but it's part of my culture.. burn the body to release the spirit...)
He bought me that desert rose....
My boyfriend is very sweet always doing great things.
He leaves me notes and cards and writes such sweet messages.
On one date he took me to the botanical gardens then to the planetarium, then to dinner at a beautiful restaurant that I had always wanted to try, with views overlooking the city.
He tells me every day how attractive and beautiful and sexy he thinks I am and how much he loves me.
Recently he took me on a fantastic holiday that he planned out.
He also buys me gifts for no reason and for my birthday he got me an awesome cake and some perfect presents that I'd been wanting.
MOst importantly he spends lots of time with me and talking to me.
I love that he does things like that it makes me feel like he pays attention to me and loves me a lot.Every thing he does is the wonderful. Posted via Mobile Device
Hubs is not a very demonstrative guy, but he'll do things that mean so much.
When we were trying to buy our house, we were short on the down payment. Just about 5,000. We couldn't let this house get past us, but we didn't have the money...
I came home one evening from the market to find Hubs sitting with a guy, going over paperwork...and there was a LOT of cash on the table. wtf?
Then I saw Hubs hand over a pinkslip and shake the guy's hand.
Hubs sold his beloved motorcycle so we could buy this house.
He walked the guy down to our garage and then stood in the street for a long while as the guy drove off. I think he shed a tear or two. I know I shed a few tears just watching him stand out there like a little boy who lost something precious to him.
Another time, my friend was going through some rough times with her husband (just financial stuff). They have two boys and their car took a dump. They were taking the bus to drop the kids off at school, go to work, get home...everything! It was taking her 2 hours to get home from work. My heart was breaking for her and her husband because they are hard working people.
Well, we had a car in good condition that Hubs acquired from an old client. This client just signed it over to Hubs when he bought his new car through Hubs' dealership A perfect condition 1990 Toyota Corolla. Beautiful inside and out. 30,000 miles! Hubs loved it and peopel were always asking to buy it.
Anyhoo, Hubs told me to call my friend and her husband because he wanted to just sign over the car to them. For free. We each had a car to drive...this was just an extra car.
He changed their life! It's been 2 years and they baby that car. I was never so proud and in awe of his generosity.
Another time, my friend was going through some rough times with her husband (just financial stuff). They have two boys and their car took a dump. They were taking the bus to drop the kids off at school, go to work, get home...everything! It was taking her 2 hours to get home from work. My heart was breaking for her and her husband because they are hard working people.
Well, we had a car in good condition that Hubs acquired from an old client. This client just signed it over to Hubs when he bought his new car through Hubs' dealership A perfect condition 1990 Toyota Corolla. Beautiful inside and out. 30,000 miles! Hubs loved it and peopel were always asking to buy it.
Anyhoo, Hubs told me to call my friend and her husband because he wanted to just sign over the car to them. For free. We each had a car to drive...this was just an extra car.
He changed their life! It's been 2 years and they baby that car. I was never so proud and in awe of his generosity.
There are two really sweet things that I enjoyed a lot:
1. He actually cleaned our room, ran me a bubble bath with jazz music playing in the bathroom, and put candles all over our dresser/bathroom/tub. He also surprised me with my favorite chocolates and a dozen yellow roses. He told me to go relax while he took care of our daughter who was about 7 months or so at the time.
2. Last year he told me to go get dressed while he changed his clothes and set up a small table in our living room with candles and wine. Then we slow danced in the living room.
Several years ago he and I went out four wheeling with a group of friends. We decided I would drive to our destination and he would drive back. Well we get almost to the point we were trying to get to. All I had to do was go down this steep dirt hill and around the bend. This steep hill had dirt walls on both sides of us. So there wasn't much wiggle room going down.
Towards the top of the hill the wheel caught on a tree root and we were both sent flying. Mid flight I blacked out (I'm afraid of heights). When I came to I was lying on my back in the dirt and the four wheeler was over me but not completely off the ground and not touching me. I look above my head and see my husband (boyfriend at the time) holding the four wheeler. He was holding it over me with all the weight of the four wheeler leaning down the hill. So while he was holding it there he couldn't move it and had to wait for someone to help him. He later told me he was afraid if he moved it it would fall on me. I could only imagine what would have happened if the four wheeler would have landed on me. He's my personal hero and I always feel safe around him. sigh
Needles to say I didn't drive after that (that day). I'm a bit dangerous behind the wheel.
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What is the sweetest thing???? 
