Ten texts a day every day seems a bit much unless the kids are in crisis, but maybe she doesn't trust him with the kids? Are you privy to the content of these texts? If it's all "why were you 5 minutes late picking Joey up from band practice", I wouldn't worry so much.
My H's ex likes to harangue him via text when she is having a bad day, for example. He rarely responds. Is your H responding ten times a day? If not, it's probably something he's just learned to ignore.
You know, I'm no spring chicken, I've dealt with plenty of exes. We all have em, and mostly I'm fine. People grow, people change, relationships wax and wane. But this woman, who was mean to my H for years and years and years in a way that he is still damaged from?
I hear you lamaga...my H's ex stole the kids, and now he barely knows them...what drives me nuts is that he seems to have this 'water under the bridge' attitude, whereas I have the 'tie a big cement block around her neck and push her OFF the effing bridge' attitude...
He tries soooo hard to be friendly and civil, and bends over backward to accomodate, I guess he is still afraid of her on some level. Or afraid she'll alienate the kids even further, not that it's even possible, at this stage.
Well, really! My H's ex wanted to stay at OUR house on her way through the city! Wanted to be chauffered around as well!
"I hope I can count on you to pick me up at the airport and then also, drop me off at the bus station...oh and if I need to overnight, can you check with CandieGirl of that would work...?"
Phuck me! I mean REALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who DOES that? It happened 4 weeks ago and I am still floored. Floored.
I FEEL YA!!!!!!! My wife things its fine for he ex to stay with us every few months a a week at a time, even while I am outof town! Everyday I would work while they hang out in pool and drink and grill...
She seems to think I am the ONLY person in the world that thinks this is not ok... lol