General Relationship DiscussionAlthough anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.
Freshman year dorm sweethearts in 1975--married as soon as we graduated in '79. Met her in the first couple of weeks at school late at night in the dorm...her soft, husky, sexy voice attracted me at first...37 years later and she still attracts me
My husband bought a car where I worked. He came to the back office to get some paperwork and he was so hot and had this sexy smile and I knew it was then or never so I slipped my name and number into his papers on a sticky note. Lol Posted via Mobile Device
We went to the same high school, but too many years apart for us to have been there at the same time. I did know his younger brother, though. We knew/know a lot of the same people growing up, and knew of each other.
Twenty-five + years later, after I left a 17 year marriage, we both got transferred to the same department at work and wound up next door to each other. Started dating within six months, married a year ago.
I knew my stxh"s mom for 12 years. Worked together. She constantly bugged me about her oldest son... "we should go hiking together" hint hint. She exchanged our numbers for us. It was awkward at first, but we did have a lot of fun hiking and biking together, occasionally skiing in the winter. For 3 years, we never were more than friends.
He was dating someone, or I was... and it never went anywhere for years. Until once after hiking all day... I walked up to him and kissed him. I tried to apologize right away, but he cut me off with another kiss. .
I like the stories where the women were the initiators in the beginning... you don't hear about that too often and I think it's sexy as hell when a woman goes after what she wants.
I had been using a dating website for a while at the time, and she had just joined. I had been on a few dates and met some gals but nothing turned into a relationship. But it was good for me to overcome my hangups and looking back I had kind of cultivated some alpha behavior I guess..
So anyway, for SOME reason there was a kind of glitch for her when she joined the website and she wasn't getting messages in her mailbox. I saw that she was online, I forget the details somehow I think I could see that somehow messages weren't getting through. Since I'd been using the site, I knew you can also send messages from regular e-mail to user's mail through the site so I did that and it went through. She responded (ha... thinking in MMSL terminology, the website's glitch helped me out by giving me free isolation with my instigation!) we started chatting through Yahoo IM a lot.
We were both going to the same university, we met at the library, I took her to get bagels which she didn't eat, we sat in my car and talked a while, and somehow it all worked out.
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The thread linked below is about as close as I get to my story, it has my posts about the point where I turned my marriage around and on the day my wife was planning to move out, instead we started a new beginning. I've been keeping my updates in this thead as well: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general...-sex-life.html
The first time I remember really noticing her was when we were practicing for a church Christmas pageant together. We had met previously a couple of times, but even though I had found her attractive, she was going out with the WORST HUMAN BEING ALIVE!, I tried not to put her out of mind. When I finally met her on a one-on-one basis, she was still reeling from the breakup. I made move anyway.
We just celebrated our tenth anniversary last week.
__________________ "I'm not a real doctor, but I play one on TAM." "Dude, stop saying 'no.' If your wife offers you a quickie in the back of a moving van, you say "YES!"
Our first time was a blind date. My cousin was in college at the time and had somehow arranged to have dates with 2 gals on the same night. He called me to rescue him :-) That was 50 years ago.
We are from different countries, we have heard about each other from a mutual friend and met when he was on vacation, I knew the very same day I met him that this is the kinda guy I want to spend the rest of my life with.......
We were apart for 35 years before we found our way back to each other
Haha, 9th grade for us, and we never split after that. In our late 30s, and been together over 20 years. I like to give the 15-year 40-something couples a hard time. Noobs! Posted via Mobile Device
He was my service adviser for my car for years. I had the BIGGEST crush on him. Even told my friend once that I was going to marry him (didn't even know his last name LOL!)
Then one month (November-December of 07), my car was having so many issues and it was only 2 years old! They couldn't find the problem...I was in the shop 2 or 3 times a week talking with him.
Our conversations slowly went from just about the car, to about us and our days and our afternoons and our plans
Phone calls about "the car" started out about the car, but turned into just a conversation. I couldn't WAIT until my car broke down again!
On my last night there, he was cashing me out and asked, "So what are you doing tonight?" and I said, "Hanging out with you." Without missing a beat he said, "I'm off at 7."
Well, he got off at 6:30 and met me down on 3rd Street in Santa Monica (near his work) and we got a drink. Then another. After 2 hours of conversation and 2 drinks each, he asked if I wanted to get tacos up the street. Passed the "drink phase"! Onto dinner!
It was a work night, but we sat at the taco bar until 2am ...talking and laughing and then he drove me home (I had taken my car home and walked to 3rd street). He didn't kiss me but I would have done everything that night.
Turns out, he really liked me and wanted to take it slow. awww.
We lived in the same condo complex and one day as I was walking past her she asked if I was related to.... my brother. It ends up we knew a whole bunch of the same people. Her best friend in grade school was the sister of my best friend and we were likely over at that house together years in advance of knowing each other.
She started showing up in the laundry room when I was there....coincidence?
We met at work, we both worked at a casino at the time. I didn’t really notice him right away but he says he noticed me right away. He would walk by my station and drum his fingers along the table as he walked by, yes, that got my attention. Even though he was now in my perception I never thought he’d want to take me out on a date. But he did and I accepted. Then he sweated the date for a week…he’d ask my sister what I liked, where I’d want to go, etc….really I’d never been on an actual date before so I didn’t even know. He took me to a fancy upscale restaurant…he wanted to impress me…me being me, I ordered chicken strips…haha we still laugh about that one. Well, I didn’t want steak or lobster, I wanted chicken strips and fries.
It was my first experience with a real date. I got myself fixed up, he came and picked me up, opened the car door for me, and paid for the meal. That was May 27th of 1992. That’s the anniversary that we truly celebrate. The great thing is that his chivalry wasn’t just for show, it’s really who he is, he still holds the door open for me, he still takes me out to dinner (I still order chicken strips and fries), he still is concerned about being a gentleman to me and to those around him…most of the time.
I worked at an electronics store, where her cousin also worked. Her cousin had a crush on me, but I wasn't interested at all. One day she came in to chat with her cousin, and I just happened to have to talk to her cousin real quick. I went and talked, didn't even really notice her standing there because I was busy and just asked a question real quick, and went back to work.
She told her cousin to go tell me she thought I was "hot" after she had left. Her cousin did. And I honestly didn't remember her that well. Her cousin told me I should come out with them one night. So I did.
I met my future W that night and we instantly hit it off dancing and hanging out. A few days later we all went out to a lounge for supper and drinks. And her and I sat together and talked. Another week of "hanging out" and we started dating exclusively. That was exactly 8 years ago. We went "official" on August 28. We had a child together, and would be celebrating our 2 year wedding anniversary and 8 years together (we got married on the same day that we starting dating - 6 years later) on August 28. Unfortunately, we likely won't be "celebrating," but maybe the stars will align once more. Here's hoping.
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"A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love."
awww.
