06-11-2012, 07:20 AM
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Michigan (USA)
| | Re: reading material
The books I bought when we were having trouble and our therapist wasn't worth the money were:
5 Love Languages
His Needs/Her Needs
Boundaries in Marriage
Married Man's Sex Life Primer
I read Married Man's Sex Life Primer completely and it's really changed things.
I've started reading 5 Love Languages. To be honest, it's boring me and I'm not finding it as helpful. I'm a guy, so maybe that has something to do with it, and the book relates to rational love actions and I don't think that was where our biggest issues were.
It might be a good book, but maybe for us in particular it isn't that big of a revalation. We took the test on the website to identify our primary love languages and they weren't that different.
Anyway by contrast, MMSL helped a lot because it explains things that you should do while relating them to the body chemistry behind our emotions. It makes sense of things that seem a little contrary to what seems rational.
I haven't yet read the other books to comment... I find myself having to push myself to read 5 Love Languages, and as such I also find myself anticipating the same with the other books. I'd really appreciate hearing more about the other books from others so I can get a better feel for if any of them are going to speak to me.
The thread linked below is about as close as I get to my story, it has my posts about the point where I turned my marriage around and on the day my wife was planning to move out, instead we started a new beginning. I've been keeping my updates in this thead as well: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general...-sex-life.html