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Recently a female friend of mine and i starting flirting over text messages and i thought it was just some harmless fun, until she confessed that she has been into me for months now and plans to take it to the next level. so you may be wondering what is the problem, well she has been in a relationship for about 5 years but all the passion fizzed out a long time ago however she is still in the relationship! worst of all, both of them are really close friends to me, i feel like a classic case of "damned if you do,damned if you don't" what i told her was to sort out her current relationship first but i really have no idea on what to do. and i feel like a total douche for "stealing someones girlfriend" tho its not really me who initiated it. but i do have feelings for this girl. help
shes hot and i get along really well with her. yeah but the problem is her partner is a really good friend of mine and treats me like a brother. i mean, when someone invites you to their home and treats you well you dont just around stealing girlfriends. its a real dilemma
shes hot and i get along really well with her. yeah but the problem is her partner is a really good friend of mine and treats me like a brother. i mean, when someone invites you to their home and treats you well you dont just around stealing girlfriends. its a real dilemma
How does he treat her? Does he talk down to her? Does he abuse her?
If he mistreats her then dump him as a friend. Why would you want a freind who mistreats another person? Especailly his gf/wife. The dating her AFTER she breaks up with him is a possiblity.
If on the other hand, he treats her well but they are having normal relationship struggles, stay away from her. An honorable person does not steal their friend's gf when the freind has done nothing wrong.
I woudl also be leary of this girl in either case. She is picking up on the bf's good friend (you). And she is doing this while she's with him. What she is doing it shopping for her next bf. It sounds like she is the type of female who has to have a bf waiting in the wings before she will leave her current bf.
Down the road she will do the same thing with you.
Send me a picture of her, I know people say "beauty isn't everything" but If this girl has no self respect for her looks, leave her. If she does, have like lets say nice hair and a clean face, do it. You earned it its not your friends fault they can't keep a good relationship. You take that girl and you tap her right.
How does he treat her? Does he talk down to her? Does he abuse her?
If he mistreats her then dump him as a friend. Why would you want a freind who mistreats another person? Especailly his gf/wife. The dating her AFTER she breaks up with him is a possiblity.
If on the other hand, he treats her well but they are having normal relationship struggles, stay away from her. An honorable person does not steal their friend's gf when the freind has done nothing wrong.
I woudl also be leary of this girl in either case. She is picking up on the bf's good friend (you). And she is doing this while she's with him. What she is doing it shopping for her next bf. It sounds like she is the type of female who has to have a bf waiting in the wings before she will leave her current bf.
Down the road she will do the same thing with you.
i knew her partner thru her but over the past 1-2years we have formed a close friendship the 3 of us and one of the main reasons why she wants to leave is the lack of attraction to her partner, she says she treats her partner like a friend/family. the girl is in a lesbian relationship however she has never been attracted to females(physically) and this is her first. however i am into her but the thought of this is making me sick, it feels so wrong and i never imagined myself doing this to someone i care about(her partner)
bro rule #21: If she will cheat with you, she will cheat on you
Bro rule #16: Bros before hoes
Bro rule #11: Don't stick your **** in crazy
Only good way out of this is
Stop flirting. Ask her to end the relationship with him before this goes any further. Give it a gap. Then ask your friend if it is OK if you date his ex.
You said you are close with this guy. Don't do this to him. It is double betrayal. Imagine your girlfriend of so many years cheating on you with your best friend. That would be heart breaking and a soul destroying thing to do.
bro rule #21: If she will cheat with you, she will cheat on you
Bro rule #16: Bros before hoes
Bro rule #11: Don't stick your **** in crazy
Only good way out of this is
Stop flirting. Ask her to end the relationship with him before this goes any further. Give it a gap. Then ask your friend if it is OK if you date his ex.
You said you are close with this guy. Don't do this to him. It is double betrayal. Imagine your girlfriend of so many years cheating on you with your best friend. That would be heart breaking and a soul destroying thing to do.
alright thanks, im probably gonna do that, i dont wanna do something i cant live with. yup, many people is gonna hate me for things i didnt do.
tell it like it is, im just gonna tell her that before anything happens she should sortout her current relationship and maybe we should stop talking for awhile. im not forcing her to break up i just dont wanna do anything to hurt people.
Good luck. You will look back in a couple of years and will be proud of how you handled yourself. Remember, this girl isn't a catch she seems to be. She is someone that wants to cheat on her bf with his best friend.
Good luck. You will look back in a couple of years and will be proud of how you handled yourself. Remember, this girl isn't a catch she seems to be. She is someone that wants to cheat on her bf with his best friend.
they are both kinda like my best friends, yup thats how f##KED up things are. and i knew her partner after knowing her. whoopde doo gotta find new friends to hangout with.
If she is planning to cheat on her partner over you, she will most likely cheat on you in the future as well. There is no reason she couldn't have broken up with her partner before trying to ignite things with you. Seems like a cake eater to me. I would stay away from such a person.
yea, i agree with the others. she has issues if she is flirting heavily with you before ending her other relationship. also, people who have affairs usually do not end up together as the relationship is started in a such a dishonest place.
also, since this guy is your friend, that is really really messed up. do you really want to be that guy? all for someone who is hot? this sounds like the start of an emotional affair. she should be talkign to her boyfriend about her feelings, not you. not if she is still with him.
there are plenty of women out there, pick someone who has some values. this girls seems to be short on them and is showing you she cant deal with relationship problems...
Nothing else to add -- you know what to do -- and please listen otherwise in a few years you will posting in the coping with infidelity forum on this forum.
Confused and desperately seeking advice 
