Whats the worst thing your spouse has said about you in MC?

abandonedcompletely · 06-13-2012, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by ConfusedHubby

Me and my wife have never been in counseling together because of her refusal but the worst thing she has ever said to me was "Shes glad she had a miscarriage because she would never want to have my baby"

This was probably a year after it happened and we already stopped trying. Happened during a bad verbal fight but still that was a pretty bad low blow.

I'm so sorry...that is absolutely horrible!

ConfusedHubby · 06-13-2012, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by abandonedcompletely

I'm so sorry...that is absolutely horrible!

Thanks, I always chalked it up to "She's an addict, she has a disease, thats not really her, thats not who she is"

But still when you have somebody constantly playing with your emotions. Up, down, back and forth it starts to wear you out mentally and that is where I am at right now. That is why im 1300 miles away from her. I've always been consistent with her as in I've always maintained that I love her, I am content and want to make this marriage work. She has been every which direction about what she wants as far as us being together. Not really fair to me. Maybe one day she will get the help she needs and we can talk again, but by then I imagine I'll have moved on. I'm no angel, I've had my bouts with drinking, but I quit when it put a strain on our relationship and she asked me to, I asked her to do the same and she wasn't willing to do that because she doesn't think that her addictions have any effect on our marriage. She's blinded to the fact. She says that I needed to quit because i'm allergic to alcohol and cant handle it, while she can.

Good Dog · 06-13-2012, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Feelinglonely76

Had MC the other day and my wife told the MC that she loves me but not in love with me or attracted to me. To top it off she also said she consider me weak. And this is from the woman that decided to cheat because she was unhappy. Anyone else got verbally punched in the face in MC?
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You have my sympathies. I heard that kind of hurtful thing from my wife directly so I know how it feels to hear it. I can't get her to go to MC with me, so she does IC but doesn't discuss anything about her EA with the counselor. I'll keep trying to get her into MC with me. But I can understand why the whole process must be very difficult for those who make it that far.

abandonedcompletely · 06-14-2012, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ConfusedHubby

Thanks, I always chalked it up to "She's an addict, she has a disease, thats not really her, thats not who she is"

But still when you have somebody constantly playing with your emotions. Up, down, back and forth it starts to wear you out mentally and that is where I am at right now. That is why im 1300 miles away from her. I've always been consistent with her as in I've always maintained that I love her, I am content and want to make this marriage work. She has been every which direction about what she wants as far as us being together. Not really fair to me. Maybe one day she will get the help she needs and we can talk again, but by then I imagine I'll have moved on. I'm no angel, I've had my bouts with drinking, but I quit when it put a strain on our relationship and she asked me to, I asked her to do the same and she wasn't willing to do that because she doesn't think that her addictions have any effect on our marriage. She's blinded to the fact. She says that I needed to quit because i'm allergic to alcohol and cant handle it, while she can.

Sadly, we can't make anyone change. They have to do because they want to.

Some finally change for the better because staying the way they are causes more pain than not.

Feelinglonely76 · 06-20-2012, 08:42 PM

To answer your question i have full access to everything.
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Feelinglonely76 · 06-20-2012, 08:45 PM

Someone else asked what the MC told her. She said my W had to grow the F up and take responsibility for what she did and stop blaming everyone else and their mother. I could not contain my smile.
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