Feelinglonely76

Had MC the other day and my wife told the MC that she loves me but not in love with me or attracted to me. To top it off she also said she consider me weak. And this is from the woman that decided to cheat because she was unhappy. Anyone else got verbally punched in the face in MC?
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lamaga

Awwww...that's sad.

This is not nearly in the same ballpark, but it did help convince me that my ex was crazy. He told our MC I drank too much...water.

I was exercising a lot at the time, drinking my 8-10 glasses a day, and he complained that I was drinking too much water! No one needs that much water!

Yes, he was a tad controlling

keko

She's likely cheating again.

Why are you still with this creature?

Accipiter777

wow... drinking too much water.... dunno if i could live with a person who drinks too much water!

Feelinglonely76

I know she isn't. But its still messed up
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abandonedcompletely

Well, I'm in counseling, my husband is not, nor will he ever be...

BUT..he said to me that his plan was for me when he dies.... welfare! No life insurance, nothing... (there use to be life insurance) Mind you, He's a bit older than me, I've been a SAHM for 17 years and have MS which has made it difficult for me to work. That is my payback for putting everyone's needs before my own.

And just found out that all the years I've tried talking to him about my feelings, such as feeling lonely (which was about 1 to 2 times a year. I didn't nag him) and such..He thought I was "just talking to talk" !?!

There's also been a bunch of other stuff...

keko

How do you know it? Are you chceking her phone/computer usage? whereabouts?

Hope1964

What was your MC's response to her drivel?

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lamaga

Abandoned, you can take out a life insurance policy on him. Carve the money out of the grocery budget or something. Even something like Colonial Penn will be better than nothing.

chillymorn

you can also leave and try to be happy without him I'm sure you would be happier without him

chillymorn

the kiss of death.... show her how strong you are by leaving the wretched woman who cheats and belittles you.

ConfusedHubby

Me and my wife have never been in counseling together because of her refusal but the worst thing she has ever said to me was "Shes glad she had a miscarriage because she would never want to have my baby"

This was probably a year after it happened and we already stopped trying. Happened during a bad verbal fight but still that was a pretty bad low blow.

lamaga

Confused, that's abominable.

ConfusedHubby

I know. She's said other things that were pretty vicious as well but I'm not totally innocent either. In that case though it wasn't triggered by anything I said that was messed up. In this instance it was just her trying to say the most hurtful thing possible to me.

Of course she apologized the next day, blamed it on alcohol and xanax. Her crutch. It is what it is though. I will be better off, she's back at our house with her brother now so I know she's safe, no need to really talk to her. Time to officially disengage. Its going to be hard though.

From the outside looking in I'd tell one of my friends "how can it be so hard after all that she has said and done to you?" Well that part is just unexplainable, I don't understand it myself. Maybe thats why I joined this board, to kind of try to get an understanding through other peoples experiences because right now I don't now if its because I'm too nice, too forgiving, love her too much or if I just have a screw loose and love the abuse.

abandonedcompletely

I thought about it, but actually, I just want to leave. I've been working with social workers. I just getting my ducks in a row before I do.