Re: What if your spouse forgot your bday?
The passive-aggresive way you went about it should give you pause.
While it may not fix the issue of her forgetting, being direct about it would have lessened your frustration.
Next year, roll over first thing in the morning and say "Hey, it's my birthday! Want to start my list of presents now?"
The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?
OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.