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I will tell him when he comes to mc with me.
I have brought her to specialists. There is nothing wrong with her... had numerous tests her brain is completely fine. Posted via Mobile Device
Confused, you have no idea what I would really like to tell you since Im going through this myself. I will tell you this, you need to lay it all out on the table. EVERYTHING! I agree with a lot of others, let him decide. He will probably consider you damaged goods and not worth any effort to continue. What you have done is unacceptable and selfish. When you wake up from your fog, you will look around and ask.. what did I do?
If you do D him, have fun with your new man, Im sure you wont have any trust issues with each other whatsoever..
Like I said, I dont want to get banned so Im holding my tongue.
Do you know all the particulars of why his marriage went south or do you just take what he says as gospel? No offense,but cheaters lie.He would be the last person to talk to about love in terms of forever.That's a term you both probably used at one time with your respective spouses.Sad really.
Yes i know what the circumstances were from his divorce not just from him but also from the conversations i have heard (both enda) i seen video of some things and i have also heard from many of his friends. Posted via Mobile Device
He is an excellent father and i would never prevent him from ever seeing her but there is no way he will get full custody. She will reside with me. Just because i had an affair does not make me a bad mother. I take care of my daughter very well. Posted via Mobile Device
She will reside with you IF the COURTS say she will. It's not up to YOU. If you choose to divorce your husband, the courts decide what is best for the child. Honestly, based on what you have posted, I would side with her father. And that does not include the info about you cheating. Your husband could very easily stipulate that he does not want any of your boyfriends coming around your daughter unless/until you are engaged at the very least. I've seen that happen many times.
nfused. i know im no longer in love with my husband... this Affair was coming for a while. i know leaving him is probably the right thing to do, but he is a fabulous father and i would hate to hurt my daughter, addittional my husband earns a 6+ figure per year. if i stay i have a very easy life. this is not so with my lover. i also do not want to hurt my hsband, its not like i hate him. i also dont want to hurt my lover who i have become incredibly connected to. should "i stay with my husband who i am no longer in love with, just for financial secuity. i dont want to be unhappy forever, stuck in my marriage. its not a terrible marriage i just feel so alone. Even if i dont leave my husband for my lover, should i walk away from the marriage, give everything up? please help. thak you."
NEVER leave a six figure salary behind. If you can find the right lawyer with connections to the judge handling your case, you can take it with you.
Im not really worried i know exactly what i an entitled to under the law. I just want my daughter taken care of. Its just money. Posted via Mobile Device
Yeah that struck me too. She's using her husband for money and her lover for sex. Basically what's going to happen is her husband will cut her off and her lover might also when he feels the fallout. Karma's a ***** sometimes.
Im not using my husband for money...in fact i put him.through school and struggled working and getting my own degree when he got his mba..spent overr $100000. On my own money to get him through school. So im not using anyone. Posted via Mobile Device
She will reside with you IF the COURTS say she will. It's not up to YOU. If you choose to divorce your husband, the courts decide what is best for the child. Honestly, based on what you have posted, I would side with her father. And that does not include the info about you cheating. Your husband could very easily stipulate that he does not want any of your boyfriends coming around your daughter unless/until you are engaged at the very least. I've seen that happen many times.
Interesting post but i know what i am entitled to. I know what he can and can not stipulate. I am not an unfit mother. In state if new york mother always gets the kid unless proven unfit. Im far from unfit. I take care of her extremely well. I earn a good living. Never did drugs and i dont drink. Her father borders alcoholic at times. Im npt looking to take her away. I wrk for the courts. I know the law. Posted via Mobile Device
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