First I would like to thank you for taking your time in reading and helping out if you can. I want to apologize if I'm all over the place.
Okay So this is my story, I have been married for 7 years and have 2 kids with H (9 & 3). We both work full time jobs H 8-430pm and I 8-5pm. That's not including the hour it takes to get to and from work. Okay now here is where I need help. H and I don't get along we can't even have a conversation with out it turning into a fight
. From what H tells I'm the one with the problem, apparently I'm lazy and not as sexually active as I should be these are the major problem he has with me. Now this is what I do M through F take care of dropping off the kids in the morning and picking them up after work. When I get home I cook, serve and pack his lunch, I do 100% of the house chores. When I go out I'm always with the kids. Not to brag but I work 24-7 H on the other hand only works his 8-430pm and does not help with any chores well he takes out the trash every morning.
So my first question is, just because on the weekend I like to watch tv and not do anything around the house does this make me lazy? Does it make me lazy that I don't like to clean every weekend?
Now when it comes to being sexually active. If it was me I would be fine with once a month or even longer H feels that it should be a couple times a week but is okay with just the weekends. I know I'm horrible but I'm honestly have no interest doing anything with him I don't even like being around him since we are always fighting about this just thinking about makes my stomach turn.
I feel that he isn't fair and yet he wants me to change my habbits.
Not to make anyone feel like I'm pointing fingers but H is abusive verbally and can get abusive physically. Although he tells me that he's not abusive since he never beat me like Tina Turner got beat and the whole verbal thing is me being too sensitive. Now I know most of you might be saying why don't you just leave but it's so not that easy. I also know that there is two sides to this story and I'm not a perfect person. I honestly feel that I do more than my share and H should just be happy with me. I tell you if I can leave I would but I don't have the guts. I most definetly wouldn't be able to make it on one income. H tells me all the time that the reasons he doen't leave is because of the kids and he too can't afford it.