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Anytime husband is sitting down to talk, watch TV, anything besides eating or being up doing something he falls asleep.

So that means anytime we are discussing stuff to work on our relationship, his eyes are closing. I know he has to be up early for work and many times doesn't get enough sleep, but it's so frustrating. I feel like I'm never being heard when I have to nag him to keep his eyes open. I almost feel like to have a discussion where I have all his attention is when we're out at a restaurant, driving or taking a walk together.

He has an appt to see a therapist to see maybe if he needs more help. In general, he is more of a pessimist, introvert, sarcastic but funny guy.

We started talking about going to the therapist when I was telling him I feel like if he ever left me, I'd be devastated. If I ever left him, he said he'd be "really upset". I just don't think he would be as devastated as me, like sometimes I think maybe he's just being complacent or is too lazy to speak up or leave if he's really unhappy.

I guess I'm rambling now, but any advice?

Gaia

Well... if he is sitting down on say... the couch.. or bed... or somewhere else comfy.. he may associate comfy with sleep... he's clearly relaxed and although he might not MEAN too.. of course he'll fall asleep. If you want to talk to him about something serious.. have him stand and move around with you.. or try to do it during a time you know he will be able to pay attention. If he's falling asleep.. his body is clearly exhausted and telling him to sleep regardless. Sometimes that stuff just can't be helped.

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MrsOldNews

Why not talk while your taking a walk. Some people think better on their feet anyway

norajane

I don't think there is anything wrong with talking about things while out for a walk.

If he's always tired in the evening, it makes sense that you find a time to talk when he is awake. I'm sure you wouldn't want to talk when he's fresh and awake but you're still sleepy, like every day when he gets up for work.

KathyBatesel

I once knew someone who had a similar problem, including falling asleep during work meetings. He was being checked out for narcolepsy. I haven't ever been exposed to narcolepsy except maybe that guy, and I don't know his outcome, but here's info on what narcolepsy is:

Narcolepsy - PubMed Health

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