06-20-2012, 02:20 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Near Chicago IL
| | Re: Blended Family Teatering on Divorce
Originally Posted by Head Wrecked
I have been married to my wife for 7 years this past March. We seam to have had a strained relationship since day one. Partly do to our blended family values. She is Spanish with a fatherless daughter and I am American and we share 1 common daughter.
I have raised the step daughter as my own since she was 6. (now 13). I am the only one that helps her with homework, projects, sports etc. But she is getting older and more selfish. Mom refuses to discipline and I am not allowed without getting ganged up on by the 2. She is becoming very disrespectful to both of us. Mom just is completely blind to her tactics. Mom feels the need to continue to keep giving her more and more to make her happy. 10 fold that of our 5 year old common daughter.
The oldest is a master manipulate of her mother and uses it to cause tension in the house. Tension usually means a shopping spree with mom.
I love my wife with every bit of my heart but I am not handling the part where I need to be the full time dad to one and part time dad to the other. Only needing me when it is convenient for them.
I have tried to explain this to my wife but she instantly gets into defense mode for her daughter. I fear the worse if she continues to think there is no consequences in life.
I am not sure what I am looking for from this site other than maybe someone that has similar or common ground in this situation.
You are no different than any other parent/step parent trying to raise a 13 year old girl. Think back to your teens years -- funny thing is when we become parents we tend to forget how we acted back then
Good luck --- stay strong -- she will be out of the house in a few years with her own life.