06-22-2012, 02:25 AM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Happy wife, happy life...
I have heard this saying so many times and I suppose it implies that if a man makes his wife happy, his wife will be happy.
Well, my husband and I have been having some struggles over the past few years. Neither of us have been giving one another the best version of ourselves. I wouldn't let go of old issues and he wouldn't communicate.
I decided that I will take the first step and committed myself to letting go of the past. I also told myself that I will just be as happy as I can be and the best version of myself and give him some time to come around.
Now I think "happy wife, happy life" means if the wife can be happier herself, life will be happier lol.
I am generally the initiator for dates and affection. This past week my husband asked me to 2 movies and a lunch date and today I got loads of affection! We have been laughing and enjoying one another.
It's only been a week of course and it could be a coincidence, but I can't ignore the fact that this week is much better than last week. And that my husband is certainly going to be more drawn to a happy wife.
We even agreed that as the next 2 years permits (he is in med-school starting clinical rotations), we would commit one night a week to just us, no movies or tv allowed. We can play games or make a meal and re-connect. The next 2 years will be the "easiest" of med school and I feel hopeful that if we use our time wisely, we can be back where we need to be and on the right track.
I am "hopeful" but also not trying to set any expectations. I am just going to continue working on myself and hope that rubs off on him and our marriage. One day at a time.