Drover

Reading post after post here it strikes me as interesting how often women blame their lack of sex drive on depression while men blame depression on their woman's lack of sex drive.

NotAlwaysEasy

It makes sense, though, and can be a legitimate reason for a low sex drive. I know that some people would take advantage of that fact though.
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Drover

This wasn't intended to be an accusation aimed at either sex, just an observation.

Runs like Dog

So a man goes to the doctor and says, doctor I'm depressed and I'm impotent, what should I do?

The doctor says, I'll give you Prozac and Viagra and if either one works, throw away the other one.

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Acorn

On some level it makes sense, though... a typical husband's top need is sex, so if he isn't getting his top need met, he may become depressed.

A typical wife's top need is not sex, but something else, and if her top need is not being met, she too can become depressed. This depression can then affect her sex drive.

Drover

Sure it makes sense. It's just that it comes up over and over. Someone could write a whole book on it.

deejov

I'm separated, but for many months now my stbxh has commented that he has zero sex drive... (although he has self care routines)

He goes to the dr every 6 months for blood tests. he had childhood leukemia, I think they will make him do blood tests for the rest of his life.... and he always mentions that he has "depression" and no sex drive.

He comes back every 6 months with a new medical reason for it. Except this time. Last week the doctor referred him to a physchologist.

The latest excuse was anxiety. And I'm sure he does have severe anxiety. About a lot of things. But he finally got told to learn how to deal with stress and life, once and for all. He said dr bluntly told him to "grow up and learn how to be an adult and do something about it". If something makes you soooo very unhappy, do something about it. If you don't know how, seek advice. Then he told him "cancer might not kill after all. But stress and anxiety will".

What a novel idea.