Originally Posted by LOSTfan
That puts him into such stalker status. If it was a girls weekend and she's being a faithful wife, shed still get mad at him for showing up. Because it would be painfully obvious why he did it. Please don't do that. We all can agree there may be smoke here, but don't make it worse. A wife needs a self confident man, not a lost puppy trying to find mommy.
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LOST, smoke, really? Girls weekend, my ass! She lied to her H, she contacted the XBF, he found her out. That's enough evidence for a confident man. No lost puppy, just a man showing he'll be in your face if you eff with him. You may disagree with Middleman's confrontational stance, but sitting back, puking you guts out while your wife screwing another man, is like a little puppy cowering in a corner.
For me, it would be somewhere along these lines:
Inform her I know she lied and I know whats she's up to.
Tell her to stay with him.
Change the locks and put her stuff is on the lawn.
Oh yeah, I'd be looking for his wife too. I'm sure she'll be interested.
But the reality is she has no respect for Swede. He never enforced his boundaries and she knows she can get away with it. He's worried about overreacting? He's her doormat and he's not going to grow any now.
There is something to say for the way they do things in the Bronx.
Swede, get off your ass! Man up, do something! Don't let her walk over you.