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He's the one with the issue and it doesn't have to be the butt. I got the impression his issue is with peeing. And with sex most of us are licking that area and not requiring that second shower. The least this guy could do is wipe her off to his satisfaction.
Well, she doesn't HAVE to shower... but then he doesn't HAVE to pleasure her orally either. Don't we like our men to be clean for their oral pleasure???
I never have asked Hubs to clean himself better. He doesn't smell bad down there, even after a day's work.
OP didn't say it was for oral...he wanted his wife to shower after pooping so they could have sex...
He's the one with the issue and it doesn't have to be the butt. I got the impression his issue is with peeing. And with sex most of us are licking that area and not requiring that second shower. The least this guy could do is wipe her off to his satisfaction.
OH! I thought his "After she goes to the bathroom, if you know what I mean" was poop. No?
They make special cleaning cloths for this...I've seen them at adult stores--so you don't lick soap.
Well, she doesn't HAVE to shower... but then he doesn't HAVE to pleasure her orally either. Don't we like our men to be clean for their oral pleasure???
I do not make my husband shower before oral unless he's really stinky like if he's been working outside and sweating.
OH! I thought his "After she goes to the bathroom, if you know what I mean" was poop. No?
They make special cleaning cloths for this...I've seen them at adult stores--so you don't lick soap.
What do I know. I'm not a clean freak.
I was just offering suggestions. The fact that his wife is lying to him about it tells me she's annoyed by it.
I'm kinda familiar because my dad had issues with smells and it drove my mom nuts. He used to make her take 2 showers a day whether they had sex or not.
lmao i didn't associate bathroom with poop either... lmao.. and cleaning as part of foreplay.. in my mind.. was both in the shower scrubbing eachother down.. ... >_> Not wiping each others arses.....
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I know Hare Krishnas shower after they poop--- every time! And before and after sex. It's not OCD, it's part of the religion.
But if it is just OCD, try to get a grip on it. I have very sensitive skin and that many showers would ruin my skin. Water is drying to skin and there's no need to take so many showers.
If it's just your OCD....then YOU have to deal with that. IF it's really a hygene issue and she smells bad or tastes bad, then that is an issue that you have to talk with her about.
My H is OCD... I tell him his OCD issues are his problem. If bed making or carpet cleanliness are problems for him, then those are his job. We all have to own our own problems/issues.
So if wife is stinky, then she will have to own that. If she isn't and it's just your preference...then YOU have to own that.
And either way, if it bothers you then don't do oral if you think she isn't "fresh and clean". Oral is not mandatory. When she asks why you don't do it, tell her that you really prefer it when it's freshly showered. Then it's on her to prepare herself or not.
(I knew that 'bathroom' meant poop because when we have to poop in this house, we say "gotta go to the bathroom". If we have to pee we just say we have to pee )
oral on a her is better after it has fermented a little.
i dont like soap taste or the 'taste enhancers'.
i love the natural scent and taste of lady parts. mmm
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Re: shower first 
And before and after sex. It's not OCD, it's part of the religion.
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