Beelzebub

I'm kind of person that want wife to shower before making love, I feel ,, how do I put the words if wife didnt shower,, not disguist but kills my mood for it.

anyone in the same shoes

Gaia

Are you.. ocd perhaps? and don't worry... I'm the same way.. but not just with my H... with myself as well. I always feel we BOTH need to shower before doing anything.

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Bellavista

Shower together.

Beelzebub

we do shower together, but wife sometimes lies about taking a shower lol. how do i tell her in a nice way she must shower.

SunnyT

You teasingly text her something sexy about you wanting to eat something squeaky clean... there's ways.

Gaia

How OFTEN do you and her shower? To be fair... not everyone showers before and after everything .. nor do they feel the need to.. so just remember that she doesn't HAVE to... even though you would like her too.

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that_girl

Sex happens in this house on a whim. Showered or not. If we had to shower every time, we'd be really clean!

Too much to think about. Sex is dirty and raw. Showering is so boring...THAT would kill my mood. "Oooh honey, let's get it ON!" "Go shower first". :/ Nice. Not.

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Beelzebub

we shower daily, but I want her to shower after going to bathroom if you know what i mean.

Mavash.

No I'm not like that and I wouldn't want to shower before sex. Unless I've gotten somehow sweaty or dirty during the day I don't see the point in a second shower.

Having to shower AGAIN would kill MY mood.

And she doesn't HAVE to shower. You can ask nicely but it's not a MUST as you put it.

Mavash.

Baby wipes? Soapy wash cloth? Why demand a full shower for such a small body part?

Gaia

Beezle.. you sound OCD to me.. and I can relate.. because I'm exactly the same way.. BUT remember.. you will need to make compromises when with a partner that doesn't have this mental disorder. Yes it is a disorder.. as many have stated.. they have sex on a whim, ect.. that is the norm and although it may freak you out to not shower before and after everything.. like i said.. not everyone is that way so try to relax a little. If it helps.. get a bit tipsy when you think your going to have sex.... that way your less anal about things.

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Gaia

^^^This is a good idea and cleaning as part of foreplay helps as well.

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that_girl

"Less anal" when he just wants her bum clean Sorry, just tickled me.

Bee, they have wipes for the bum. They do clean the area and no need for a full shower! Pick some up for you guys. Yes, YOU guys. You can't tell her to clean her beehind better if you don't either

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that_girl

Yea.....I wouldn't wipe Hubs' butt for foreplay.



But that's just me.

ETA: I just asked him if I could clean his butt for foreplay.

OMG the look on his face was priceless...I'm crying from laughter. he said, "Woman...." and then other things, but i lost it at "woman".

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SunnyT

Well, she doesn't HAVE to shower... but then he doesn't HAVE to pleasure her orally either. Don't we like our men to be clean for their oral pleasure???