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Old 06-26-2012, 06:12 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I hate my wife for being careless
that woman no electrical device will last in her hand more than a year: cameras, laptops, cell phone anything. and what is funny she wont admit the blame for breaking it.
she uses my tools and never put them back. no matter what I say or what i do she never changes. i started locking things out. what else should I do? should i install 2000 volt wire on each electronic devices.
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:16 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I think you need to ease up and relax. Not everyone will be as careful as you are. As far as locking things up.. take into consideration what that could do to HER emotionally. It will hurt her feelings... and she may start seeing it as you treating her like a child. If you see her as such.. you really shouldn't.. she is your spouse and although clumsy as hell... she's still an adult. It may irk the hell out of you that your precious laptops get broke but keep in mind.. it is JUST a material item that can be replaced at a later date. Just make sure to emphasize to your partner to TRY to be more careful with these items.
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:19 PM   #3 (permalink)
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You hate her for that? Wow. I've had people do worse things, I don't hate them.

She is who she is...why the hate?

So she isn't clean enough or careful enough. What do you LOVE about your wife ?
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:21 PM   #4 (permalink)
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that girl you took the words right out my mouth.

She's not clean and she's clumsy. Does she do anything right?
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:25 PM   #5 (permalink)
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you people dont understand
1- forgeting Pro mac laptop in school bathroom then telling me she might left on top of the car and drove a way
2- breaking second laptop second year
3- breaking 3rd latop third year
4- $500 digital camera two years ago
5- $360 digital camera i just bought 6 months go she took with her on vacation.
6- screwing a nice sofa with colorex
7- sane week carepet with colorex
8- shower door
9- missing drill
10- missing tools.
etc etc
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:26 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I'm thinking he's ocd ... after all.. I did and still do have a few issues with my own H but I've come to realize it's because of me... and my disorder and I've also come to live with it and adapt. Beelze when your feeling yourself get worked up... try doing something that helps you calm down.. then deal with the issue when your calm and relaxed and have a clear head..
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:29 PM   #8 (permalink)
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you people dont understand
1- forgeting Pro mac laptop in school bathroom then telling me she might left on top of the car and drove a way
2- breaking second laptop second year
3- breaking 3rd latop third year
4- $500 digital camera two years ago
5- $360 digital camera i just bought 6 months go she took with her on vacation.
6- screwing a nice sofa with colorex
7- sane week carepet with colorex
8- shower door
9- missing drill
10- missing tools.
etc etc
^^^I understand perfectly Beez, like I said.. my spouse is the same way.. he's clumsy, he's broken several of my vacuums, computers, and phones, lost several of my own tools, ect however I've come to realize that even though he isn't as clean or careful as I am.. that these items can be replaced... he can not. Besides... try adding destructive kids in the mix.... your gonna have to learn patience, understanding, ect.
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1- forgeting Pro mac laptop in school bathroom then telling me she might left on top of the car and drove a way

$2500 plus

2- breaking second laptop second year

Not sure if this was a Mac. So $500 to $3000

3- breaking 3rd latop third year

Not sure if this was a Mac. So $500 to $3000

4- $500 digital camera two years ago

I would be livid!!!

5- $360 digital camera i just bought 6 months go she took with her on vacation.

Sigh

6- screwing a nice sofa with colorex
7- sane week carepet with colorex
8- shower door
9- missing drill
10- missing tools.
etc etc
Ok. Actually this would upset me very much.

If I spend a bunch of money to make sure my wife had very nice electronics I would be very upset if she kept losing this stuff. It shows a carelessness and lack of respect for the gift itself and how hard it is to work to afford those things. Losing something once can happen.
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:33 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Stop buying her expensive electronics??

With that list I'd be livid too.
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Then stop buying them for her.

I bought my own 500 dollar camera. Bought my own laptop.

To HATE your wife when you know she's careless is silly. If you KNOW she's careless, then she can buy her own crap. She may take better care of it if she knows it's her money. Does she work?

If she doesn't work, well...stop buying her things. That is a LOT of money.

My husband breaks the crazziest shet. Things I've had for 10 years!!! They've lasted me 10 years and Hubs breaks them instantly. Blows my mind. I don't hate him for it though.
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finallyyyyy thank you entropy.

people guess what, due to economy and my salary lowered, i cant buy these stuff or fix them any more. so we are without digital camera and computers except my tablet and Pc which i have take power cord with me to work and locked them in the office with finger scan door knob.
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these stuff not just only for her, these are ours. camera for kids. etc etc.
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:37 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Make them off limits to HER.
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Old 06-26-2012, 06:39 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Like i said.. it's frusterating.. but don't HATE her for it.... some people... like your wife and my H... are just not very careful when it comes to this stuff... At least your wife didn't break a very nice... and expensive... glass coffee table... lol (Don't get a glass coffee table if there is a possibility of her breaking it either... just saying... )
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