hmmmm for a minute there I thought you were my wife...we been married 12 years and have three children as well and I've always wanted a threesome, particularly with a male. Plus we are best friends and are made for each other.
But that is where it ends....
Well here is my take and this is comming from me and my personal thoughts. Why do I want my wife to have a threesome?
I know this will be hard for you women to understand, but it's the honest truth. So here it goes...
Part of me feels my wife is the hottest woman on the planet, that I am one lucky SOB and married this terrible hot woman that no other male will ever get the pleasure to have sex with, it's like hogging up a treasure all to myself.
Another part wants me to "watch her" seeing her so hot and watching her go wild sexually is not something I can do, becuase I am the one doing it to her, I would love to watch her "in action" Women get mad at the porns, well nothing is Hotter then my wife in the porn...just not with me. Hard to watch yourself, just like it would be hard for you to watch yourself, guys don't want to see their naked butts bouncing up and down...yuck.
Another is the ULTIMATE pleasure for my wife, I know she would LOVE it, she would really enjoy it, I really think she would enjoy the experience of two men pleasing her. Matter of fact I know she would.
Finally, that I am not good enough, part of me can not accept such a georgous creature loves me and wants just me and no other man. Men hit on my wife everyday she is GEORGOUS, I find it very hard and difficult that she only wants me, I am no Brad Pitt, I am no Tom Cruise, I am a average dopey guy who had low self esteem for years, how can I possible have this? How could this georgous woman want just me? I have a habit of beating myself up, that I am not good enough, I am not worthy.
Did he have a girlfriend cheat on him in the past? I had one that screwed everyone and their brother, so it took a long time for my Repair job and my jealousy was OUT OF CONTROL, it took a long time for me to fully trust my girlfriend/wife we dated 7 years...I was waiting for her to cheat, which she did on spring break, but fully confessed the moment she got back, anyway didfferent topic.
My wife has always said no to the threesome, not interested what so ever. I still fantasize about it and tell her I do, but I also said, I will never bring it up, but if you ever decide you are interested, let me know and we will go to a swinger resort in Cancun for couples only, I think a full couple swap would be better for us anyway, or a foursome.
So what can you do? not much, he needs to get it out of his mind, you need to tell your friend it will not happen and it will only be unconfortable afterward.
Do you role play with your husband? Have you ever visited a swinger club? my wife and I have visited a swinger club for couples only, I have found the atmosphere electrifying and so has my wife, but we never have swapped, we watched others and others have watched us and that has been thrilling enough for both of us.
Having a threesome with the friend or just sex is REALLY A HORRIBLE idea, unless you can keep it as friends only then yes, but you can't you already stated you have feelings and you would regret it and it would cause trouble down the road and divorce. This is something you Both would want and I would recommend a Resort or a club, But no friends. But if you are not interested in it a 100% then DO NOT DO IT....EVER.
While I know I want to, and I know my wife would really love it, I know she doesn't want to, so I can't ask her to do it, but I left the door open for her in case she changes her mind.
Do you and your hubby do Photo sessions? make your own erotic movies? Sex texting? any of that? Maybe come up with some innovative ideas to get him off the threesome.
I learned to come up with other ideas for our marriage that my wife enjoys, She knows I will never give up on the threesome, but sometimes it's good to keep that carrot infront of the rabbit.
On a side note, I have not cheated on my wife, and never viewed a threesome as a "free pass" to go cheat, that is not what us men are thinking, it is the ultimate fantasy, the MMF is about pleasing the female in the most erotic way possible....but the issue is there is a third person and those feelings are usually left out, which can lead to major issues.
Don't do it with the friend, ever.