Beelzebub

I just left work early because i couldnt stand being near anyone, i just had it from my career path in Information Technology and business. I wish if I can quit my job and take time for myself alone to find myself. I want to discover and find myself, travel alone to see different cultures and different people and spend sometime alone some where on an island. I wish I can find things I like to do or where I could feel excited about doing it.
with wife and kids thats impossible to accomplish. I feel bored, I feel old, I feel lazy, I feel not doing anything.

I'm very thankful to have a good wife and kids, and a good paying job, I'm thankful to have a house, water, food on my table, I'm thankful that my kids are in a good health and happy.


I just turned 30 years old.

wiigirl

No offense...but you can do all that with keeping you job, wife, and kids.

If you feel old/lazy...sorry, get over it. Man up...find some passion. Go for it. If you don't you will regret it.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno

Talk to your wife and kids about it, you can all devise a plan so that you can have a bit of adventure. Stay open minded, stop thinking you are stuck. Most of being stuck is in your head. I thought the same thing, well after a brain injury forced me to take a different path, career wise and it worked out to be what I had wanted to be doing instead of only being a computer programmer and statistician, then I realized this life had been there all along. Boink.

maybe it wouldn't happen that you can take a drastic change, but if you can give yourself permission and also get support of your family, you can make small changes and your family is probably going to be excited and they will also share their dreams and desires. A family should be a place where people support each other, not become ball and chain burdens. It sounds like you are making your family into something maybe they don't want to be, without talking to them about it. Open up, you may be surprised at what you hear.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno

My kids know I want to visit Mongolia. In the meantime they ask me when can we take a road trip. But if I never told them about wanting to go to Mongolia, they would probably think I'm just a boring adult. lol. I had plans to go to Cuba this spring but they were derailed, instead I drove to the hospital to visit my friend every day, sometimes my kids came with me, they were very supportive. It was an adventure, not a wonderful one, but it was something out of the ordinary that was important to me and my family was behind me 100% on the need to change up the daily situation to accommodate it.
I learned a lot about my kids this year as a result.

bluelaser

You sound exactly like me at times ... I'll tell you what i say to myself when i feel this way -



SNAP OUT OF IT FOOL!!! YOU HAVE A WIFE AND KIDS DEPENDING ON YOU!!!