07-08-2012, 08:17 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Communication breakdown
I have forgiven my wife for her infidelity that occurred just over 2yrs ago. My problem is she continues to flip between showing a great amount of love and affection, to becoming very passive aggressive and being completely irresponsible for anything she says or does.
We have discussed her failure to return my calls when she is out (she admits it is wrong and that she would not want me to do the same)
This is also true with her hurtful sarcasm; raising her voice-especially in front of the children; rolling her eyes and other forms of disrespectful body language; dismissive remarks, avoidance/feigned ignorance of my feelings; hurtful comments; apathy; negative assumptions...the list goes on and is very long. She also states she is trying to tell me how she feels and what she thinks (the lack of which led to most of our communication problems.
I have tried many different techniques-some of which solve the problems temporarily. However they always return.
When I get the strength/time/energy to discuss this after a day or two of her " nice" side. She admits she has problems. Only to state the next time she has no problems and she has taken responsibility for everything and is tired of doing so and she is "done". I am concerned for our 6yr old daughter as she is starting to shut down emotionally.