07-10-2012, 10:11 PM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Henniker, the only one on Earth
| | Re: Angry people male and female
I think a lot of people don't understand that being tolerant of being the subject/object of anger and abuse just leads to more of the same. Tolerance doesn't really make the other person feel better, it just makes them even more angry and abusive. In order to 'solve' an abusive and angry relationship, you have to take control of it, usually this means removal of the object (yourself) either permanently or proactively in order to sidestep the anger/abuse.
I have a lot of peace in my life now since I took that step.
I also think it's important to remove oneself in order to avoid becoming frustrated and perhaps even angry at oneself for failing at self-care/exposure to mental/psychological harm.
Unfortunately, contrary to popular adage, words do hurt, and can cause a lot of damage to one's physical health.
Ultimately, you have to choose for yourself, whether to pat yourself on the back for being the better person (and accumulating harm) or moving the pat down lower and kicking yourself in the butt to take action and get out of Dodge.