07-20-2012, 02:04 PM
Join Date: Jul 2012
| | Marriage pains
Hi all, I am upset with my marriage at this moment. I am always in a situation whereby I go to bed upset and can't sleep. It's 2am now, awake and I want to get some perspective. Here's the background. I just got home happily from a great dinner with my colleagues. I had a bad gastric earlier and I told my husband about it. We are also trying for baby #2. So upon reaching home, I expect him to ask me about my gastric, how's the dinner etc. Instead, we didn't really talk. He is not a sociable person. The next thing he said is we have to talk about something related to family. It turns out that his parents who currently stay in a rental place wants to buy a new place. Well, he said there are 2 options, either we move in together with them, or sell our place to them and we buy a bigger place. I don't get along well with my mother in law but I do not want to keep him from staying with his parents, so I just casually brought up the idea of staying with my parents for the weekdays and move back on the weekend. It's just a suggestion but he got work up about it. Immediately, communication stopped , he grabbed his company laptop and started working. We did our separate things. I am angry because it is just a suggestion and he is not open to ideas. I also want time with my own parents. I also hope he is more caring towards not letting me be overly upset, as I may be pregnant.
Anyway, this is just an example. I am always in such a situation. I just find it so difficult to communicate and it seems like I am always the one hurting. He is snoring away now. Sometimes, I thought of leaving but this is probably impulsive. But I am happier when I am with my colleagues and family.
Can anyone share your perspective? What should I do?