FB PM -- how to respond?

angelpixie · 07-23-2012, 11:46 AM

I don't go on FB very often anymore, especially since I'm trying to avoid contact or reminders of STBXH. But I did today to look for a photo I posted a while back. I was shocked to see I had a PM from a co-worker who is leaving in a few days, professing his feelings for me. I had no clue. He is married with two kids. He said he felt OK to tell me because we'd probably never see each other again, but...we will be seeing each other for the rest of the week.

How do I respond to this? It's obvious to anyone that looks at my page that sometimes a week or two will go by without me getting on. So, can I take the chicken way out and just not say anything til after he's really gone?

Almostrecovered · 07-23-2012, 11:48 AM

well you'll likely act differently and/or he will ask if you read what he wrote

best to quash it ASAP

I feel sorry for his wife

angelpixie · 07-23-2012, 11:51 AM

I know. Me, too. They're moving because she got transferred. I really hope things work out for them. I feel horrible and guilty and I haven't even done anything!

Almostrecovered · 07-23-2012, 11:53 AM

no need to feel guilty, it wasn't your fault unless you were flashing him on purpose or something

This is me · 07-23-2012, 11:55 AM

Delete it. Ignore it. Nothing good to come from it.

angelpixie · 07-23-2012, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered

no need to feel guilty, it wasn't your fault unless you were flashing him on purpose or something

Well, there was that time... No, no there wasn't.

anonymouskitty · 07-23-2012, 11:59 AM

Or better yet send a snapshot over to the wife and tell her that you don't welcome her husband's attention, you don't have to feel guilty about the entire incident at all.

Jellybeans · 07-23-2012, 12:00 PM

You don't have to respond at all.

Or you could tell him "Respect your wife and don't flirt with me."

This is how emotional affairs start...

that_girl · 07-23-2012, 12:03 PM

I'd probably write back something like, "I don't appreciate this and I'm sure your wife wouldn't either."

Done.

angelpixie · 07-23-2012, 12:03 PM

Don't worry, JB -- there is absolutely nothing mutual going on here. Like I said -- took me totally by surprise. If he'd told me in person, I'd have been standing there open-mouthed & dumb-founded.

Jellybeans · 07-23-2012, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by that_girl

I'd probably write back something like, "I don't appreciate this and I'm sure your wife wouldn't either."

Done.

Zing! I like this response.

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Originally Posted by angelpixie

Don't worry, JB -- there is absolutely nothing mutual going on here.

I know. I was just pointing out how easy these things start.

Mavash. · 07-23-2012, 12:20 PM

I'd probably respond back "I could never be with someone who approached me while still married. Does your wife know?"

This is one stupid man.

Mavash. · 07-23-2012, 12:21 PM

In reality though I'd probably just ignore it. LOL

I'm not really into confrontations.

thunderstruck · 07-23-2012, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by angelpixie

He said he felt OK to tell me because we'd probably never see each other again, but...we will be seeing each other for the rest of the week.

Coward was probably hoping to get one romp in with you before he left. Now he doesn't have to face you (after this week) after getting shot down.

Jellybeans · 07-23-2012, 01:22 PM

You know he is feeling like a dumba$$ too.

I think it's almost more cruel not to respond (in a good way). Cause now he's going to be sweating and wondering if you are going to show that to anyone else or share it with his wife.

::cackles::