Pema5033

Yes, I agree. If they lived two blocks away, that would be fine with me too. But if they lived downstairs, we have to share the same parking lot, the same entrance,the same elevator, the same security officers, same mail men, same swimming pool, same Jacuzzi, same condo’s officer, same neighbors, that would be a BIG trouble for me. I have already felt very uncomfortable when I think about it.

Pema5033

The only reason is his princess daughter loves our building.

Pema5033

Sometimes, his words hurt me a lot but he never realize it. many many times, again and again hurt me.

sculley

honestly what makes you think the princess is in this with her own mom...It just stinks to high heaven any man that divorces a woman surely wouldnt want her anywhere near his new wife REGUARDLESS...

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sculley

I'm sure this causes some resentment because you wish he would treat you as well or even half the way he does his daughter. So I am assuming ya'll don't have kids together? How long have ya'll been married?

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FRANC

Sounds like princess would love any building where Daddy and Mommy lived...if she has ideas about them getting back together, even behind your back, and so does Mommy...then what is better than living in the same building!!

There will be so many reasons why your husband needs to 'pop round' to help them out, you won't believe it...the a/c is broken, my TV is faulty, homework, putting a new bed together...you see where that could be going right?

How awful of him to put his wife in such a bad position...almost like making you choose between them. Very inconsiderate.

I think you should print off all these replies and show them to him.

And what about you spending a day checking out condos in the neighborhood and giving him the details. At 13/14 she will be able to walk or bike to your place.

FRANC

He might not realize it because you don't tell him?

You must stand up for yourself and tell him it is unacceptable for him to keep hurting you like that.

Can you list the good things about him which make you want to be married to him?

You might need some counseling to help you see what is good/not good, acceptable etc, without him telling you cr*p like its "the American way".

Very sad for you, he doesn't treat you very well.

Pema5033

My husband told me his daughter loves our building so he is finding a unit in our building for them. My husband maybe is a little bit special than other men. That idea very SHOCK me. I cannot believe he has such an idea because he told me many times when his EX wanted divorce, how did he cut off all the felling to her. but still, they want live together.

A Bit Much

Well let's hope that his little plan has a snag. Just because the daughter wants it doesn't mean it's going to happen... that is unless HE is paying for it and filling out the paperwork on it.

You aren't being unreasonable, no matter what he says. This idea sucks. He's moving more than just his child near you and if he can't see that then he's an idiot. I guarantee if the shoe were on the other foot and YOU were trying to move an ex into the building he wouldn't go for it. Kid or not.

Pema5033

I do tell him but he says this is eastern-western culture difference.

Good things about him:
1.He is good educated.
2.He loves his brother.
3.He has decent friends and job.
4.He never do drugs, never smoking
5.never lie.
6.He loves my cooking.
7.He does laundry.
8.He clean dishes.
9.He loves opera and movies and music.
10. He loves me. Most of time, he put me in his priority, find the movies I like, find the restaurants I like.

so I think he can be a good husband and if I can be a good wife, we can happyly live together forever.

sculley

and that way you will look supportive I like the idea... and yes if she cant even drive somewhere without consulting him don't you think she will be calling having him at her beck and call.

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sculley

If you can be a good wife????
Is that according to your standards or thoughts....or what he is filling into your head?

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A Bit Much

Do you know why he and his ex got divorced?

Did he initiate it or did she?

Pema5033

Good question. I really don’t know why. she initiate it.

According to my husband, after the EX giving birth, she was very depressed, one day she told him she wanted divorce. That time the baby only a couple of months old and they only married one more year.

sculley

Hmm is there a chance she could have changed her mind and maybe they have something going on? To me in my mind she has no respect for you and your husbands marriage. Any woman that would call like that with it not having anything directly doing with daughter doesnt care about you....And the fact that he doesn't take up for you and your marriage to her really urks me.

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