women ... do you like/love sex or dislike/hate sex?

in my tree · 07-27-2012, 10:56 PM

I like it a lot with the right person AND when the feeling/timing is right. With the wrong person or when there is a lot of tension in the relationship, my feelings range from not liking it to not being able to stomach it.

Pandakiss · 07-27-2012, 11:07 PM

I love sex. I don't orgasm through PIV often.

But still can't get enough. Maybe not everyday..,,sex and oral sex is hard (but fun) work.

I have to give my knees and back and shoulders a little rest.

anony2 · 07-27-2012, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by EleGirl

How long are the marathons? Why do you think he seems it a a performance?

I like to let things flow naturally, it isn't the length of time for me really, but he keeps feeling like he has to last a certain length of time or he isn't "good enough". I think he got the idea that it is a performance from something that he read.

Pfft, for me, if we both enjoy it, I wouldnt care if he lasted 3 minutes or 4 hours.

EleGirl · 07-27-2012, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by anony2

I like to let things flow naturally, it isn't the length of time for me really, but he keeps feeling like he has to last a certain length of time or he isn't "good enough". I think he got the idea that it is a performance from something that he read.

Pfft, for me, if we both enjoy it, I wouldnt care if he lasted 3 minutes or 4 hours.

Have you tried to tell him some of this ..that some times quick it good? That variety is good?

One thing that has been suggested is that if you want to change your spouses sexual behavior ... praise the behavior you want to increase.

Like have you ever told him that you'd love to just have a quicky? (at the moment that you want one?)

EleGirl · 07-27-2012, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by in my tree

I like it a lot with the right person AND when the feeling/timing is right. With the wrong person or when there is a lot of tension in the relationship, my feelings range from not liking it to not being able to stomach it.

Ok, my poll implies that it's sex with the right person.

I doubt that any person enjoys sex with 'the wrong person'. I don't think that men do either.

Bellavista · 07-27-2012, 11:52 PM

At the moment I am chasing my hubby around the house constantly. It may be due to peri-menopause (I think I am turning into a bloke, I have started cursing as well). Hubby has been away now for 6 days, I know it will be good when he is back tomorrow, but I feel no need to take care of myself while he is away. Therefore I conclude that it is my hubby making me horny.
Part of that also is a big change in the attitudes of both of us towards each other, we are really making an effort to communicate well, understand each other & not push each other's buttons. It is making a difference to every part of our marriage.

anony2 · 07-27-2012, 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by EleGirl

Have you tried to tell him some of this ..that some times quick it good? That variety is good?

One thing that has been suggested is that if you want to change your spouses sexual behavior ... praise the behavior you want to increase.

Like have you ever told him that you'd love to just have a quicky? (at the moment that you want one?)

What I am talking about isn't just 'having quickies' per say, I am saying I would like a relax and go where sex takes you. I would also like to practice Tantra.

Yes, I have talked to him about this several times.

EleGirl · 07-28-2012, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by anony2

What I am talking about isn't just 'having quickies' per say, I am saying I would like a relax and go where sex takes you. I would also like to practice Tantra.

Yes, I have talked to him about this several times.

I've wanted to experiment with Tantra as well.

waiwera · 07-28-2012, 12:44 AM

Yep... I love it.

I'd happily have some sort of sex play every day.

I'm sure the fact we have this connection has helped us through some tough times.

EleGirl · 07-28-2012, 03:15 AM

Are we seeing a trend here?

Zab · 07-28-2012, 03:58 AM

I dont really like it but I wouldn't say I'd rather not have it at all. Because when I have sex with my husband there's this emotional connection happening, so I can say I'd like to have it just once in a week or in two weeks. Not too often- that would be nice.

mc1234 · 07-28-2012, 05:08 AM

I love sex and would have it every day if H allows. I asked two close friends last night and one said more than once a week is generous, and the other siad her average was 2-3 times a month. Sad thing was they saw nothing in that and I felt guilty as I was very similar to them in their thinking but since H's EA and our R, I just can't get enough of him. (sigh). How the tables turn.
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EynaraWolf · 07-28-2012, 05:14 AM

Love sex with my husband.

EleGirl · 07-28-2012, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by mc1234

I love sex and would have it every day if H allows. I asked two close friends last night and one said more than once a week is generous, and the other siad her average was 2-3 times a month. Sad thing was they saw nothing in that and I felt guilty as I was very similar to them in their thinking but since H's EA and our R, I just can't get enough of him. (sigh). How the tables turn.

I think that for a lot of people life's responsibilities start to take precedence and sex get put on the back burner. It’s sad because relationships suffer for it.

EleGirl · 07-28-2012, 05:40 PM

Moving this back to the top 'cause we need all of the women to vote!!!!