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View Poll Results: Women, how do you feel about sex?
I love sex. 99 86.09%
I don’t really like sex… but endure it sometimes but would rather not. 8 6.96%
I don’t like sex. Won't have it. 1 0.87%
Other, will explain. 7 6.09%
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post #46 of 131 (permalink) Old 02-10-2013, 02:46 AM
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RD, no one has posted that they will not have sex.
Well 7% don't enjoy it, that's pretty much the same thing as "will not have sex" for me. I personally can't be with someone who doesn't enjoy sex, a man wants to feel he's pleasurable for a woman too ya know

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Well 7% don't enjoy it, that's pretty much the same thing as "will not have sex" for me. I personally can't be with someone who doesn't enjoy sex, a man wants to feel he's pleasurable for a woman too ya know
Did you see that post of the study that shows that men choose to withhold sex and thus create a sexless marriage as often as women do? So it's not a woman thing. It's both genders who do this... equally.
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It just doesn't feel like much of anything when he is inside me. No matter what guy I've been with its the same thing, don't feel much.
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It just doesn't feel like much of anything when he is inside me. No matter what guy I've been with its the same thing, don't feel much.

What about other stuff? Like foreplay, him giving you oral, etc?
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I don't really know what foreplay is. He does do oral and I only like that a little bit. It's the only way I can finish.
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I don't really know what foreplay is. He does do oral and I only like that a little bit. It's the only way I can finish.
How old are you and he? How long have you been married (or together)?

Forplay is things like kissing, and kissing each other head to foot, touching each other.. just doing things that get each other sexually aroused before intercourse. Women generally need foreplay to really get into sex. Quickies are good sometimes. But longer sex with lots of foreplay is much much better.
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I love it if it is done right.

That means don't ignore me all the time and then 5 minutes before he wants to do it, rub his wee wee on me and grope me a couple times and then ready to stick it in.

Oh of course they all start out wonderful attentive lovers but as time goes on, they just want to get theirs.
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We are in our late 30's. Together 8 years. All that foreplay stuff you talked about would just annoy me.
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I LOVE sex now that I'm married to my child's father. I loved it before too but always felt guilty after it was over. After these years of emotional pain after sex it now feels so much more comforting and soothing.
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We are in our late 30's. Together 8 years. All that foreplay stuff you talked about would just annoy me.
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So then why did you choose to bind yourself and someone else into a sexual relationship?
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I agree with you that in a relationship where I feel emotionally disconnected it can feel like 'enduring' sex. But that does not mean that I don't love sex or could live without it. It means that the relationship is bad. It's time to fix the relationship or move on.
That's why I put other.I love sex when we are in a good place outside of bed too.But I have also "endured it" and even hated it and wanted nothing to do with sex when the relationship is completely screwed .But I MISS it at the same time and can still have the physical desire and the longing to LONG for him..Its a conflict ..I love sex ..I feel the physical desire..I miss it.(I miss him)..but I cant stand the thought of having sex with my husband if we are in a messed up place..in any heavy conflict it feels emotionally shallow or even degrading.But I will DREAM about being in that good place and having sex with him and even have the female version of "nocturnal " orgasm.In other words I can "love sex" but hate him so I have endured ...or go without.

Just having the sex part doesn't make me feel "loved" magically if I feel unloved/disrespected in other areas.Just knowing he feels loved if we have sex doesn't make ME feel any more loved .And I don't even get how he could feel like its me "loving him" either if I have sex with him while I feel like a hate his guts.

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I don't get a lot out of sex physically, but I do like it for emotional reasons. I feel closer to hubby emotionally when we've had sex and it makes me happy knowing he enjoys it.
This. I don't get as much out of sex as other posters do - I'm one of those women with "faint" orgasms, so - while I enjoy them, they aren't the angel's weeping, earth shaking experience that some people have, its far more subtle. So, I tend to enjoy it more for the emotional aspects than the physical ones, including how happy it makes my husband, and generally its during sex that I get a big portion of my "Words of Affirmation" fulfilled.

So - while I'm not physically driven to have it every day - we still average three/four times a week. And yes, because of my bodies kind of lower-running natural reactions I have to consciously make an effort to be more enthusiastic, but that isn't because I don't love my husband, or don't enjoy sex with him - its just the way I seem to be built.

So - I voted for "Other" - because I don't neccessarily love the sex for the sake of the sex itself, I like the connection it inspires.
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15%-20% of American couples have a sexless marriage. (Couples have sex 10 times per year or less.)

“Most professionals believe that low desire is experienced by men and women equally. So what is his side of the story?”

So men (YES MEN) are the ones withhold sex about half the time.

Read more: FOXSexpert: Five Reasons Men Stop Having Sex | Fox News
I have a friend who is married to one of these LOW drive men..it is very hard for me to fathom...he even seems the more Dominant type....personality wise..... I guess he is very un affectionate, and it's killing her... it has caused such resentment, she doesn't know how much longer she can hold on, it has affected everything.... the Red flags were there in the beginning though.... he just didn't seem to need it- not like the other men before him......his 1st wife cheated on him....2nd wife -it didn't last... she is the 3rd. ...

They moved in together so quickly... a bonding took place and they just went into marriage, she thought it would get better..years later, it is the same.
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