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View Poll Results: Women, how do you feel about sex?
I love sex. 101 86.32%
I dont really like sex but endure it sometimes but would rather not. 8 6.84%
I dont like sex. Won't have it. 1 0.85%
Other, will explain. 7 5.98%
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post #61 of 131 (permalink) Old 02-11-2013, 12:42 AM
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Re: women ... do you like/love sex or dislike/hate sex?

I think 'most women' don't really like sex, but are just not bothered too much by it.

The women who respond on threads and poll's like this one, are biased and probably already more into sex.

In all of our family and friends cirlces it is a kind of taboo, when brought on the table people kind of freeze, and say nothing, or there is some joking along the tradional lines of expectation. That looks to me like simulation, afraid for what others would think.

It makes my wife and me think there is actually not much of a sex life, let alone some erotic life, in existence with most couples. Only some drunk fooling around now and then.

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I think 'most women' don't really like sex, but are just not bothered too much by it.

The women who respond on threads and poll's like this one, are biased and probably already more into sex.

In all of our family and friends cirlces it is a kind of taboo, when brought on the table people kind of freeze, and say nothing, or there is some joking along the tradional lines of expectation. That looks to me like simulation, afraid for what others would think.

It makes my wife and me think there is actually not much of a sex life, let alone some erotic life, in existence with most couples. Only some drunk fooling around now and then.
Oh good grief. Please do tell all of us women what we think and feel. We surely do not know for ourselves.

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Oh good grief. Please do tell all of us women what we think and feel. We surely do not know for ourselves.
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I give my observation and conclusion. It's what I think.

The bias of participation selection at polls seems obvious.

So where do I go wrong, you maybe mistake my thinking for telling how you think?
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I give my observation and conclusion. It's what I think.

The bias of participation selection at polls seems obvious.

So where do I go wrong, you maybe mistake my thinking for telling how you think?
Yes what you posted is your observation and conclusion based on a very small sample of women; some of the women you know. This is also a very select small group of people. Is this also not a biased selection?

I found it interesting that you ignored what women here say about their feelings about sex.

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Re: women ... do you like/love sex or dislike/hate sex?

I don't want to go into hair cutting about biassing, but it's not, because I talk about all women I know. So I do not moderate the selection.

The selection is small, but the reason I made this observation is because I read (a lot) about this subject, and that is because the rate of divorce is so very high now. A female mentioned years ago to me, that a lot of those divorcing in our village were living like brother and sister before. And that was the first spark of interest for me. Relatively young people living as brother and sister. How could that be. Since then I followed news and science on the subject.

I do not ignore what women say here, in contrary, the poll where 84% say they love sex was reason to think about who visit this thread, and why that % is so contradictory to other statistics. Ah now you will ask: 'What statistics', and since I would have to google I say, you have to look for yourself, I have no time at this moment.
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A female mentioned years ago to me, that a lot of those divorcing in our village were living like brother and sister before. And that was the first spark of interest for me. Relatively young people living as brother and sister. How could that be. Since then I followed news and science on the subject.
A recent study of sexless marraiges came up with an interesting bit of statistics. One of them is that married men choose to abstain from sexual activity with their wives/girl friends at the same rate as women make this choice.

LD also occurs at about the same rate in men as it does in women.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,328226,00.html

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Re: women ... do you like/love sex or dislike/hate sex?

I love sex and some form of sexual contact everyday or twice a day suits me.

Have to say that all my close GF's seem to be the same.
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A recent study of sexless marraiges came up with an interesting bit of statistics. One of them is that married men choose to abstain from sexual activity with their wives/girl friends at the same rate as women make this choice.

LD also occurs at about the same rate in men as it does in women.

FOXSexpert: Five Reasons Men Stop Having Sex | Fox News
A good article I think, I did not blame either sex with the problem, if that is what you thought. Just because the tread was about women, I gave my opinion about their side.

I had quickly checked for some statistics, I read books from Kinsey, Masters and Johnson and Shere Hite, but I do not own them. Luckily the site of Kinsey's has some interesting statistics too.

They are worse than mentioned in the Fox article (about 20% have problems) in the age group 50-59, 'Married Women': 82% has from no sex at all during the year to a maximum of once a week.

A couple of times a month is not enough in my view to be called a healthy sex life.

I agree with you that there is also a problem with men. But I think when men have a low sex drive there are medical issues at hand.

I think people should have quality sex 2-3 times a week, and give that a priority in their relation. Before kids...

You can argue about the 'should', ofcourse. It is just my opinion on what is needed to have a great emotional and physical bond with your partner, have fun, have joy, be intimate, have great sex.

Seen my first reaction you know I am fully aware of the sobering reality of most people in that aspect. It is often said by them, sex is not very important any more. Never I hear about good or great sex.

My impression is they look at sex like a sweaty, short, cumbersome experience, with the quality of having it under blue neonlight in concrete room.

It can be very different...
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women ... do you like/love sex or dislike/hate sex?

Love, love, love it! Only with my husband of course.

The only things that will stop me if I'm having female issues(that cause secondary vaginismus, which is curable!!! Yay), bladder/kidney infections or if I'm throwing up. I'll also wait a few weeks after a major surgery also. Otherwise, I'm always hinting or asking. Our kids are plenty old enough to entertain themselves, so we just lock the door. We don't wait for them to go to bed.

Hubby knows my hints, so he can take it or leave it. I don't want to be pushy at all. I'm the one mostly initiating. My drive has been very high for about two years now. I hope it stays this way for a very long time!
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There is nothing like the feeling of post sex euphoria

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Love it. But I'm extremely high drive so that's to be expected
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For most I'd think that regular orgams = like sex.

works for me.
I liked sex in the past and orgasmed but no one ever GAVE me an orgasm.I always had to use my fingers in conjunction with intercourse and I never had an orgasm from oral or anything else.So sex was a "eh" kind of thing for me.I didn't crave it or need it really.
Then SO came along.He somehow gave me orgasms with no help from me.First time it happened,not gonna lie,I cried
Now I have to have it from him every day.

Like and "eh" went to LOVE and NEED it.
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Did not care for it with my ex - it was duty sex, even with the orgasm, tho I faked it to get it over with a lot but emotional abuse tends to do that to a person's interest in sex!

With lovers after that I do love sex. I don't know what my drive is since I have never had a chance for a regular sex life since but with people I care about it's been great - not always orgasms but always the intimacy and arousal.


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Did you see that post of the study that shows that men choose to withhold sex and thus create a sexless marriage as often as women do? So it's not a woman thing. It's both genders who do this... equally.
Actually, that is not what the study said (although the article did). From the article:

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An estimated 20 million marriages in the U.S. are without physical passion. Framed differently, 15 percent to 20 percent of American couples have sex 10 times per year or less. Such issues are rarely one-sided. Most professionals believe that low desire is experienced by men and women equally. So what is his side of the story?
It may be the study determined that half of sexless marriages are because of the husband making that choice, but for whatever reason the article does not say that. Perhaps it is sloppy reporting, but my guess, based on the authors views, is that the report either did not conlcude that or did not ask that question.
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